Tanks do get a lot of crap, healers probably second most, and barely seem to hear from too many DPS. I'm a healer and I don't mind when a Tank takes control of the situation. I don't expect it, but I feel they are in charge. With that being said, I don't like when tanks get pissed off if a party member does something different than they are used to. As a healer in endgame, every tank seems to need to be healed in a different way. There are times when I can spam cure II on a tank and never pull hate, and then there are times where a single cure will give me instant threat, and then I get bitched at for overhealing or what not. I have to cater my healing to the tank and his ability to keep aggro. I don't overheal though, and I just hate getting bitched at for pulling hate. Cause 99% of the time its either I pull hate by casting or I let the tank die.