Cross-server friending needs to happen

[Steeled]

All you hear about is the drama in dungeon finder, how the tank raged or the healer couldn't heal or the dps couldn't outdps the scholar's pet.

Thrice now, I've had exceptional groups, people who pay attention, do what's asked. Just now I did a Cutter's Cry where we had no deaths til the end boss, wiped once, went back and fought him again and started to wipe so the BLM and my paladin duo'd the last 20%. 3/4 of us were completely new to the instance. One guy gave good explanations and everyone did fantastic.

We can't requeue, we can't keep going, we get to take the luck of the draw again and hope the next tank isn't a ****, the next healer isn't watching TV, and the dps can't pay attention to what's slept.

That sucks.

Last night I had a sunken temple with two of the coolest people I've met in this vidya game. We're now following each other on ffxiv.com so that we've sort of bookmarked each other so that if they ever add cross server friending, we can have some fun again.

Point is, I'm having a blast. I'm trucking along, I'm a good tank and I like to stay with people that are also giving equal effort. I don't mind wipes and haven't ragequit a group ever, but I love it when I find a group that will listen.

Another Sunken Temple run, I explicitly asked one dragoon to solo one of the blocks onto a button so that I could get the other. Two blocks don't path well together. This person was happy to do so, but the other dragoon was raging in party chat "TANK, TANK, ****ing TANK", lol. The rest of the group knew what was up but this silly guy.... this silly guy.

So yeah, clearly had one person who pays attention and another who was busy eating poptarts, I don't know. I would love to end up with the attentive dragoon again, Saucie Frass, even though there's about a 0.001% chance of that.

Further, the ability to send tells while in instances needs to happen. I understand why it doesn't work, but I also know that it can, and HOW it can work. Simply that the chat box needs to maintain a separate connection to your home server. This has worked in other cross-server dungeon finders, there is no excusable reason why it doesn't work here.

Edit: Of course there are other things to fix first, like Squitten mentions servers, and that's important. Among non-bugs/techninal problems, this is probably one of the most important things though IMO.

Edit #2: Remember as well that most of us came from different games, particularly FFXI so we already have gaming friends. I was torn, one of my ls's started one on server and the other is now starting on another. I'd love to play with the other guys again, without rolling a character over there.

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