Scholars - missing the point

[Garnatian]

Use Steady, she will only use Embrace.

Pretty worthless. She "un-steadys" if you try to use Embrace. So you lose out on healing either way.

How do I prevent fairies from using certain skills automatically? I tried to use 'Obey' command but it just pops up the error message 'Invalid target'.
If I draw their skills in my own skill bars, do they still use them automatically?

You have to target an enemy.