Sure,
1) Download Wireshark -
http://www.wireshark.org/download.html and install it.
2) When you load wireshark the splash screen has an option to Start under the capture section. Simply select the interface you use to connect to the internet (Local Area Connection, Wireless Network Connection, Network bridge etc, pick the one that matches your connection).
3) Once this is running load up FFXIV
4) After about 1 minute (this should be more than enough time) or so you can stop the capture by pressing the red Square on the wireshark window.
5) Under the destination column in your capture you will have an ip that looks like 199.91.189.xxx (xxx will be different depending on which server you are on), that is the entry you are looking for. Highlight this entry.
6) In the bottom box you will have a bracket called Internet Protocol Version 4 (or maybe 6 for some users). Click the + icon beside this.
7) Approximately the 3rd line down will say 'Differentiated Services Field' the number beside this is what matters. If it says 0x00 you are being throttled by your ISP.
I hope these instructions are clear, if not, let me know and i'll do my best to clarify.