Quote Originally Posted by Kaedan94 View Post
But they can watch the cutscenes in their room. And do you honestly believe one person inconveniencing seven people is FAIR?

If I notice someone new watching CSs in CM, I politely ask them to skip them and watch them in their inn room later. If they ignore me or say no, I give them fair warning that we're going to continue without them. As you say, the DF is for everyone, not just for those doing it the first time. It's not fair to the other 7 people if they have to wait.

I don't honestly mind if they watch the cutscenes... that's their right. But then they'll have to put up with the consequence of potentially being locked out of a boss. There's nothing toxic about my behavior at all. I'm always very polite about it, and most people I've run with have been as well.
Nothing must be fair. It comes down to an understanding. Some play games differently than you (not specifically, just generally speaking). Just because you're polite about something, doesn't mean that you're being fair about it. You're losing nothing by waiting, but gaining at least a sense that you're letting someone enjoy the game in a harmless way. Okay, well I guess you lose a few minutes of your life... I'm pretty sure we've lost more time yawning in our lives.

I do also realize that what I said can be used from the opposite perspective as well. It's a never ending cycle, which is why it's not a matter of being "fair", it's a matter of understanding.

If people want everyone to be on-ball about the goal (speed running, story viewing, etc), then pre-make the group. If you rely on random DF, understand that people have different objectives in mind. Who's going to be the adult and show some compromise? We're in a sea of people of varying ages, but so few mature adults among them.