Geared dps can pull off most anything but the exceptionally talented/geared tanks. My BLM is barely into DL gear and with a good run of procs nothing can keep hate off of me. You know what happens? I throttle back and let the tank do his job. People do not understand this is not WoW. Tanks actually have to work for it in FFXIV.
I have leveled a tank just to understand how tanking works and the frustration they experience. Anyone who bitches about tanks not holding hate needs to do the same and learn why they are having problems holding when you are going all out before a tank gets anything off but a shield lob/tomahawk(Bards come to mind......).