Omg 3 hours later and I can finally play happily... thank you guys!!! for future reference i did what both you guys said but i also just did and entire "restore default settings"
It restarted my ps3 and reset everything and now it seems to work, just a good thing i was able to remember what email my ps3 account was on and the password to it lol

I wonder if this will also fix the black screen issue i had on my other tv... but i think ill save that for another day lol