If you have the time, please read this.

[EmiliM]

The reason why this story is significant is because someone actually took the time to take responsibility for something negative about themselves, which is rare in a community where everybody act as if they're in the Navy SEALs and anyone who can't keep up with them is somehow inferior to them and not worth hang around with. When these guys mess up, they will blame everyone but themselves.

If you notice someone not playing as well as you, do you just assume they're bad and not worth helping? If so, then you're just as much of a problem as those bad players, who might be bad only because nobody bothered helping them learn the ropes. "I'm not here to hold people's hands" is fine if you actually do belong in an elite military force tasked with carrying out dangerous missions that require only the best of the best. But if you're saying this in a video game that is designed around the idea of a inclusive community, then it's you who are playing the wrong game.

And god forbid this guy "grow a backbone". At least if this guy was apologetic it throws the elitists off and at worst they ignore him. But can you imagine if this guy became argumentative? He'd be chewed up in an instant. As far as I'm concerned, being able to admit failure and showing a real desire to get better takes more backbone than anyone who simply resorts to trash-talk and trolling when responding to criticism.

Having said that, I doubt this kind of behavior will change as long as people feel a need to flaunt and defend their e-peens as often as possible (to offset their low self-esteem in real life, of course) and feel safe enough in their anonymity in doing so.

[Battlewrench]

And god forbid this guy "grow a backbone". At least if this guy was apologetic it throws the elitists off and at worst they ignore him. But can you imagine if this guy became argumentative? He'd be chewed up in an instant. As far as I'm concerned, being able to admit failure and showing a real desire to get better takes more backbone than anyone who simply resorts to trash-talk and trolling when responding to criticism.

I'm not saying admitting that your bad at something is bad, I'm not saying become argumentative, I'm saying he has no reason to apologize and doing so negatively effects my opinion of him to the point that I no longer care. Having a backbone doesn't mean arguing and trolling it could also mean bettering yourself and not apologizing for doing nothing wrong. Having confidence in yourself is needed, as long as it doesn't become arrogant. I wouldn't want sympathy from those people who were shunning me either. Not trying to argue or anything just wanted to make it clear what I meant when I said "grow a backbone" and I still stand by the statement.

[SaintAjora]

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It seems to be a Korean (East Asian?) thing to apologize if others feel wronged by you. I'm not even going to pretend to be an expert or anything. I've just seen it so many times (along with getting annoyed when the person didn't even do anything I thought was wrong, so I see your point). It seems off to some, but it's definitely a cultural thing.