Does Anyone Worksafe RP here?

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09-17-2021, 07:29 PM
SonOfPreacherMan

Does Anyone Worksafe RP here?

Hi all.

I've recently come back to the game after a 6-ish year hiatus and Lockdown means I'm really wanting to rp a bit in this game. Problem is, we've all heard the horror tails that is the RP scene on this game and I wanted to know, is there anywhere that does RP that isn't filled with smuttery? I just wanna do slice of life scenes and casual, fun RP without it going the way of Balmung Limsa Lominsa. Currently on Tonberry atm, but I don't mind changing servers and actually plan to once the Oceana servers open.
09-17-2021, 07:52 PM
Halivel

Most of RP in this game is SFW. People honestly talk about ERP more than there is ERP actually happening.

Though looking for people to play with might be a bit of a task. You might try open a PF with detailed description of what you want, or you can look for RP Discord servers, but I don't know how big is the RP community on Elemental.
09-17-2021, 08:23 PM
Ferra

I've had a lot of fun SFW RP over in Ul'dah Balmung! I will openly admit I ERP as well but not just flat out in the open of course. If you're looking for casual interactions there's a lot of that around!

If you're ever in the area feel free to hit me up! Ferra always pumps up folks with energy!
09-17-2021, 08:28 PM
IckeDerTyp

Put on that RP tag and stroll around, am sure you'll be able to find someone giving ya a poke :P
09-17-2021, 09:38 PM
DeaconMoore

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Originally Posted by SonOfPreacherMan

Hi all.

I've recently come back to the game after a 6-ish year hiatus and Lockdown means I'm really wanting to rp a bit in this game. Problem is, we've all heard the horror tails that is the RP scene on this game and I wanted to know, is there anywhere that does RP that isn't filled with smuttery? I just wanna do slice of life scenes and casual, fun RP without it going the way of Balmung Limsa Lominsa. Currently on Tonberry atm, but I don't mind changing servers and actually plan to once the Oceana servers open.

Oi, how many times do we have to talk about the proper use of company time and equipment??

Zoom meeting with HR in an hour.
09-17-2021, 10:04 PM
LianaThorne

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Originally Posted by SonOfPreacherMan

Hi all.

I've recently come back to the game after a 6-ish year hiatus and Lockdown means I'm really wanting to rp a bit in this game. Problem is, we've all heard the horror tails that is the RP scene on this game and I wanted to know, is there anywhere that does RP that isn't filled with smuttery? I just wanna do slice of life scenes and casual, fun RP without it going the way of Balmung Limsa Lominsa. Currently on Tonberry atm, but I don't mind changing servers and actually plan to once the Oceana servers open.

The horror tales are literally just that. They're tales. Don't buy into the minority flapping their gums about ERP because they personally want to see it eradicated from the entire internet.

Only place you need to be worried about is Quicksand in Balmung. Everywhere else is fine. Crystal in general is actually the strictest NA DC that I know of in regards to RP, but people just ignore that because the Quicksand exists

As far as outside NA, I've literally never heard of any other DC's RP scene mentioned so I couldn't tell you but the general word is that anywhere is calmer than the NA servers.
09-17-2021, 10:14 PM
Ferra

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Originally Posted by LianaThorne

Only place you need to be worried about is Quicksand in Balmung.

99% true. I met some neat people there that didn't immediately want to jump me but I have received some tells that ranged from horribly desperate to flat out weird.

I want to RP first and foremost. We can add an E to it if it fits but...Don't be weird is all I ask of folks.
09-17-2021, 10:20 PM
LianaThorne

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Originally Posted by Ferra

99% true. I met some neat people there that didn't immediately want to jump me but I have received some tells that ranged from horribly desperate to flat out weird.

I want to RP first and foremost. We can add an E to it if it fits but...Don't be weird is all I ask of folks.

Can't control other people unfortunately. All you can do is report. If you go there and get hit on by someone and don't want it...just report and leave. Or just leave.
09-17-2021, 10:28 PM
Theodric

In my experience, it can be pretty difficult to find people to role-play with in this game who aren't just looking to play out relationships and little else. It's more of a problem over on the North American servers, I've found - so you might have more luck over on Omega which is the unofficial European RP server.

Generally speaking, though, even the professed 'serious' role-players on Balmung who swore up and down that they just wanted to get out into the game world and fight bandits and monsters would suddenly turn around and try to nudge my character towards sleeping with them. It was pretty surreal.

Worse yet, a lot of the same individuals would then stop interaction altogether - because, as it turned out, the pursuit of romance/ERP ended up being their primary motivator after all.
09-17-2021, 10:42 PM
AnnRam

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Originally Posted by Halivel

Most of RP in this game is SFW. People honestly talk about ERP more than there is ERP actually happening.

Though looking for people to play with might be a bit of a task. You might try open a PF with detailed description of what you want, or you can look for RP Discord servers, but I don't know how big is the RP community on Elemental.

Pretty much this
Only level 1 alts does ERP and they are very easy to identify. The rest only meme or trolls about it in shout chat, anyways for your own sanity avoid anyone that have /c/ on their profile, seriously worst people ever.
09-17-2021, 10:54 PM
Theodric

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Originally Posted by AnnRam

Only level 1 alts does ERP and they are very easy to identify.

That used to be the case when there was a sense of subtlety and tact. In the present day, however, it isn't unusual to see people brazenly advertising their search and availability for ERP even on their main characters. Generally through using Twitter, Reddit or even other third party tools such as Carrd and Discord.

Of course, feel free to take that with a pinch of salt since the rules being what they are ensure that evidence cannot be linked here but it is what it is.
09-17-2021, 11:05 PM
Illmaeran

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Originally Posted by SonOfPreacherMan

Hi all.

I've recently come back to the game after a 6-ish year hiatus and Lockdown means I'm really wanting to rp a bit in this game. Problem is, we've all heard the horror tails that is the RP scene on this game and I wanted to know, is there anywhere that does RP that isn't filled with smuttery? I just wanna do slice of life scenes and casual, fun RP without it going the way of Balmung Limsa Lominsa. Currently on Tonberry atm, but I don't mind changing servers and actually plan to once the Oceana servers open.

I'm on Atomos, feel free to hop on over and give me a chat. I haven't RPed in XIV before so don't really have much of a framework to go on, but I do enjoy it, am happily married IRL and have a strict rule of only SFW, NO ERP, or romantic relationship RP. My character is Il'lmaeran Quel'lar, feel free to send a friend invite.
09-17-2021, 11:57 PM
MrSmiley

the prevalence of erp is overstated, I played on balmung from launch until 2 weeks ago, the server "known" for getting "random erp tells at any time" and only ever got a suspicious tell once (and not even sure if they were trying something or just being dumb because I had no clothes on after a class swap). People in duty finders would bring it up all the time but my other friends in balmung had no experience with it happening either.

You can always detail what your looking for in party finder, but I wouldn't worry about that too much.
09-18-2021, 12:17 AM
Arillyn

There is a lot of SFW RP. People like to throw ERP out there all the time like that's the defacto - and it is there, I'm not going to pretend it's not. But a lot of people RP and never go down that road. I have a couple of RP characters on Balmung that I play with friends and have for years, and we've never done any ERP or even considered it.
09-18-2021, 12:43 AM
Burmecia

Be the change you want to see.
It's not easy, probably, but just if the pre-existing stuff is not to your liking, make your own.
09-18-2021, 01:30 AM
kaynide

Welcome to Tonberry! Feel free to /wave me down anytime.

Personally I don’t really roleplay, but I have friends who do. I sometimes join in and it’s pretty tame (well, they roleplay and I’m just me tbh).

I’d say the places I meet people is the aether Crystal in Gridania. Limsa works, but Gridania usually feels more…I dunno… safe?

You could just /say around the Gridania what your looking for and probably find something. Just as others said be clear what your looking for and not interested in from the start.
09-18-2021, 05:31 AM
Kolaina

Stop pretending erp on balmung doesn’t exist or is over stated. Maybe you’re just numb to it or so focused on your own rp that you miss it. But I have walked through thal, heading from doing blue mage things to a summoning bell. Then from there, On my way to bald, just before I get there, I see it in say.
This really caught my attention because it wasn’t the usual back alley s worker stuff I’ve run into. Or someone bragging how they have 2 cat girls and looking to share. (Also just casually said ad if normalcy). But what I saw was borderline beastiality.
I don’t care what you all do. Though I do think you all should take a lot of it to party chat. Make your own fc’s for it and chat there. Link shells. What ever. But let’s not pretend some screwed up stuff doesn’t exist because it puts a dark spot on something you love
09-18-2021, 05:55 AM
Maulclaw

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Originally Posted by Halivel

Most of RP in this game is SFW. People honestly talk about ERP more than there is ERP actually happening.

Yeah, it has become a meme. Reminds me a lot of the way people treated TERA Online. For years the game got called out for being "littered with ERP". The irony in that statement was that the roleplay scene... barely existed to begin with; and it eventually died out completely. Yet people still claim that it's full of it even when the RP servers shut down. So, yeah...
09-18-2021, 07:37 AM
Lunalepsy

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Originally Posted by SonOfPreacherMan

Hi all.

I've recently come back to the game after a 6-ish year hiatus and Lockdown means I'm really wanting to rp a bit in this game. Problem is, we've all heard the horror tails that is the RP scene on this game and I wanted to know, is there anywhere that does RP that isn't filled with smuttery? I just wanna do slice of life scenes and casual, fun RP without it going the way of Balmung Limsa Lominsa. Currently on Tonberry atm, but I don't mind changing servers and actually plan to once the Oceana servers open.

People talk about it a lot, but it rarely happens.
09-18-2021, 07:41 AM
KayRadley

Yes, there is still plenty of SFW RP. For my part: I don't see anyone getting nasty in the streets on Mateus.
09-18-2021, 08:21 AM
LisSquid

My advice is to network. I don't play on a "RP World", but I have plenty of people to play with. I can't rely on the rp tag and walking around, but I have my carrd linked in my search info which gets quite a lot of people talking.

Go into discords, discuss characters and plots with people. There is so much you can do in FFXIV RP-wise that isn't ERP, but you do need to organize it depending on your location.
09-23-2021, 04:59 AM
Hysorn

Real question about RP in this game... Do people speak like the NPCs, saying "pray" instead of "please", "full glad I am", or they just speak normally, albeit more formally?
09-23-2021, 10:31 AM
Lihtleita

*my roegadyn walks in wearing a hardhat*
sir your fc workshop violates several osha regulations, im going to have to confiscate your submarines
09-23-2021, 01:53 PM
kiagenwa

I think it depends on your background as well?

Yesterday I found two girls hugging each other next to Raya-O-Senna... for half an hour I think.
I was doing WHM quests for lv45 and 50. By the time I came back to finish lv50 quest they were gone.

Would you count that ERP?
I don't know what they were chatting in private so I have no idea. I remember because their outfits were great and I poked them a bit :D
09-23-2021, 02:11 PM
Zomkei

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Originally Posted by Hysorn

Real question about RP in this game... Do people speak like the NPCs, saying "pray" instead of "please", "full glad I am", or they just speak normally, albeit more formally?

Depends on the character, but yes some characters do talk like that. Others talk like pirates, with accents, like Sharlayans, many other ways, or just "normal".
09-24-2021, 12:58 PM
Wyssahtyn

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Originally Posted by Hysorn

Real question about RP in this game... Do people speak like the NPCs, saying "pray" instead of "please", "full glad I am", or they just speak normally, albeit more formally?

some do. most use modern vernacular complete with memes, slang and other such things, which makes for pretty unimmersive rp scenes imo.
09-24-2021, 03:19 PM
Halivel

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Originally Posted by Kolaina

Stop pretending erp on balmung doesn’t exist or is over stated. Maybe you’re just numb to it or so focused on your own rp that you miss it. But I have walked through thal, heading from doing blue mage things to a summoning bell. Then from there, On my way to bald, just before I get there, I see it in say.
This really caught my attention because it wasn’t the usual back alley s worker stuff I’ve run into. Or someone bragging how they have 2 cat girls and looking to share. (Also just casually said ad if normalcy). But what I saw was borderline beastiality.
I don’t care what you all do. Though I do think you all should take a lot of it to party chat. Make your own fc’s for it and chat there. Link shells. What ever. But let’s not pretend some screwed up stuff doesn’t exist because it puts a dark spot on something you love

No one here is saying that it doesn't exist. But it isn't as prevalent as some people are portraying it to be, even on Balmung. Is there ERP? Sure, there is. But for 2 NSFW roleplayers you'll find 10 SFW roleplayers. RP scene on Balmung is bigger than on other servers, so of course you're going to come across NSFW stuff there a bit more often, but it doesn't mean that the majority of roleplayers is into it.

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Originally Posted by Hysorn

Real question about RP in this game... Do people speak like the NPCs, saying "pray" instead of "please", "full glad I am", or they just speak normally, albeit more formally?

Fully depends on your own preferences and/or on what was decided on the scene by participants. I remember seeing people having a roleplaying session in Azim Steppes as Qestir, and they were only using emotes with custom texts, since by lore Qestir tribe doesn't talk at all.