In Game Stalkers

Hoping it is ok to post here.

I am wondering if there is any way I can stop a person viewing me or my lodestone?

I had a falling out with someone who went on to cyber bully me all through my social medias. I am now having people (still some in the mutual circle) find her to be in the exact or so close it worries them outfits as me, using the same colour palette for classes as me etc. I KNOW it is just a game but in a game limited in personality can one not find their own and leave me alone to try to have some uniqueness in game full of limited (to the normal person, I guess) clothing chpoices. Hair I get as I only like 2 styles so SE fix that and how we deal with cyber bullying?

Report them.

Use the support desk in game to report harassment. The GM's will look into things. You can't prevent someone from looking you up on the lodestone.

Thank you for the advice

Unfortunately there isn't much that can be done for certain things. If you feel harassed in game you can report the player for harassment and blacklist them, beyond that it is up to the GMs to take action. Personally, I think the GMs don't take that kind of situation lightly but they are limited by what they see in game and if something is actually against TOS; also they'll never tell you what actions they may take so it can feel very frustrating.

Likewise, if they are harassing you on social media, you can report them to moderators of those sites to deal with but they're under much the same restrictions as FF14 GMs.

For things like viewing your lodestone or anything through google, you can't really do anything about it. While you could contact Google customer support to say something is happening, I doubt they'd be able to take any effective action against the person.

The best you can do on your end is blacklist wherever you can, avoid them when possible, and try not to give them the attention they're trying to get.

I'm sorry this is happening to you, i wish i could give you better advice/help.

As already indicated..report them.
However.... you will likely be asked to blacklist and such.

If it becomes a worrisome thing you should consider transferring servers.
In truth....the other issue (lodestone) is a waste of time.

Consider it a compliment your being mimic'd. Get on/move on. Like it or not anyone and everyone is free to glamour as they see fit.
If you wan't to be a real annoyance..start dropping fantasia potions...kind of forces the issue lol. (Yes your spending money but it would be funny as its forcing them to do the same as well)

If it corsses over into other social media sites....you have the option to contact Local Law Enforcement.
Cyber Bullying in many states....is not a good idea.

In truth....black list...file a harassment petition if necessary...and just ignore them.

I'm not going to repeat the obvious but also good advice that has already been presented to you. My own advice is a bit unusual.

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Originally Posted by Araminta

I am now having people (still some in the mutual circle) find her to be in the exact or so close it worries them outfits as me, using the same colour palette for classes as me etc.

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If you frequently respond to them copying you by changing or dyeing your glam, they will know that trolling you is working and they're probably going to keep doing it. If you stand your ground and maintain whatever glams you have settled on they will eventually get bored and go back to glamming in their own style. Trolls need to be fed, in this case by choosing to not react you would not be feeding them.

You can also make it harder for them to copy you if you're a bit strategic about your style choices:

If the person copying your look is playing as a different race and/or gender to your character you could start glamming in to gear that is race or gender locked. If they're with a different grand company you could use gear only available to your own. You may have access to beast tribe or side-quest gear that they do not. The Gold Saucer has a lot of gear that is pretty expensive, and with the Make it Rain campaign on right now it might be a good time to use any excess mgp. There is a variety of gear that have some very specific prerequisites to equip them, so there is likely something you can wear that they cannot. You could also couple this with gender and race locked hair styles.

You could potentially troll them back by intentionally glamming yourself to look like you're a sprout under lvl 50, or create a ridiculous outfit. But I know this form of retaliation isn't everyone's idea of how to stop this sort of bullying.

However with all this said I do think the best course of action is to style your character however you want and ignore their attempts to copy you. As I said already trolls need to be fed. You do have the power to stop feeding them.

Unfortunately the only thing I can suggest is start a new character if this is bothering you so much. Use a different name, different race/clan/gender combo, etc. This is the only way you can get a new lodestone ID (that I'm aware of, if I'm wrong on this feel free to correct me). Server transfer and name change won't stop them if they're already bookmarked your lodestone page for example. You're going to lose the progress you've made on your current character however. It sucks, but the choices here are either don't let it get to you (some people have given some sound advice on how to show you won't let them walk all over you), or do the idea I suggested.

Thanks for the ideas guys I'm going take in all this advice and right now just consider it a compliment that I am on their mind so much while looking at obtaining the more rarer/GC locked pieces I like.

As a free company lead I built a home in my server so changing is not an option. I have blacklisted them.
On mobile so I am sorry for any typos.



NO MORE ADVICE NEEDED.
I think I have it all figured out for now

Even if you name change, move server etc if the harraser saved your lodestone page it will update.
The only thing to get rid of it (apart from obv reporting/blisting) is make a new character.

Best way just report them to a gm and have them take care of it. Maybe also have ones from your fc if they see him give him a hard time. Hopefully he gets banned and gets to see what inside of ffxiv prison looks like. Just make sure have no linkshells with them in it or they will always know where your at. Once happened to me and had a parent tell one to get lost and never show up around my character again. Also create bunch of alts in other worlds so they won't know which character your playing to throw them off.

On a somewhat related note, SE should really consider bringing back FFXI's /anon command. It should be extended to mask all of your character levels, and there should be a version available on the Lodestone as well. I see no reason for forcing this information to be public.

Somebody tried to cyberbully me once on a previous game, not only did this guy stalk what ever world I went on, but also got his friends to help out as well with the cyberbullying. The most you can do is report, blacklist, and try not to take it to heart. These are sad people who don't have anything better to do, and aren't worth your time.

I would report the individual that is stalking you, as well as blacklist them so that they are prevented from contacting you in-game via /tell; joining Party Finders set up by you (sadly, this won’t prevent random matching via Duty Finder though); and you won’t see /say, /shout, /yell, or any /party or /ls messages from them either. If they get enough harassment reports, their account can be perma-banned from the game so long as there is enough evidence for the GMs to take action (chat log harassment is the best kind of evidence for this). I would advise that you also have friends reporting them as well if they witness chat log harassment, because if you have them blacklisted you obviously cannot see what they’re saying. GMs can pull up all chat logs at any time and see what you cannot, but multiple reports from yourself and friends can help get a report in faster.

This doesn’t prevent this person from making a new account, but if the new one is linked to their old one, it’s another automatic ban from circumventing a prior ban. Plus, them having to spend money on the base game(s) plus subscription can (hopefully) prevent them from returning.

There is no way for you to hide your Lodestone, sadly. If they have your character ID, they can continue to track you for as long as they want. Only way around it is to delete your main character, or start over again on an alt (and we’d rather not have that, I’m sure).

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Originally Posted by NephthysVasudan

Consider it a compliment your being mimic'd. Get on/move on. Like it or not anyone and everyone is free to glamour as they see fit.
If you wan't to be a real annoyance..start dropping fantasia potions...kind of forces the issue lol. (Yes your spending money but it would be funny as its forcing them to do the same as well)

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Considering the OP’s circumstances, I can’t fault them for not feeling flattered by the imitation. People who are stalked can have stalkers that imitate everything about them, and quite frankly, it’s far more unsettling than flattering.

You can only report them (and blacklist them but that wont stop them from still having you on their list thus being able to see if you change your name, where you are and more) but I am not sure if that will help much. Maybe I was just unlucky but I was bullied by someone ingame that was once in my old FC..he would stalk me, emote me, write to me and the worst: Write to others in our FC (even when that person was not part of it anymore) to talk badly about me..this created quite the conflict but thankfully those people came to me and told me about it..I reported that person..and yet they are still playing, still going from FC to FC, still creating drama and even managed to make two people change servers..

Edit: Good to see that you have already gotten lots of good advise and that you are trying to follow them. Hopefully that person will leave you alone and will grow bored of you. I at least just try to ignore the person as much as possible because any reaction could just lead to another starting conflict.

Why is it always the pretty blonde white mages that suffer the most =/

Sighs, I get stalked now and then too apparently. Have this obsessed midlander woman constantly asking me where I am ingame and to come to her place in Mist for some "Extra Activity".

Apparently made my guy too well, and she aint the only one who flirts with my pixels. =/ bah.

Unfortunately, if you want to prevent them from viewing your Lodestone, you may have to change characters all together. Even if you were to change your character's name, they'll be searchable on Google or by their Lodestone ID.


Best of luck to you.

I would ignore them, blacklist for sure, changing worlds would solve nothing, if anything it would show your stalker that they are having a real affect on you and that will only prolong it.

Block and report. If that doesn't work and the harassment is serious like someone threatening you or you fear for your life file a police report get the incident number to the police report and file another report with Square giving them the police report information. Alternatively, if it is super serious get a restraining order through a lawyer who will contact Square whom will be legally obligated to divulge the real life identity of the person involved. Then if they still won't leave you alone they can get jail time.

I know the OP already got what they were looking for but I want to add to this:

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Originally Posted by MOZZYSTAR

Unfortunately, if you want to prevent them from viewing your Lodestone, you may have to change characters all together. Even if you were to change your character's name, they'll be searchable on Google or by their Lodestone ID.

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Google searching a character can also bring up forum posts if that character is set as the forum avatar. The forum profile can show every existing character on the same account, although I don't remember if the default setting is to hide or to show them. If you want to hide a new character from stalkers you need to make sure that the new character is set to invisible in your forum profile ("Edit Character" menu -> click on the character so it goes gray). Only the character set as the main character or your "forum face" cannot be hidden.