The deleting friends issue..

Anyone else annoyed by this issue of one-sided friendlist deletes?
Incase someone doesn't know, when you delete someone from your friendslist, unless the other person deletes you too, you stay on their friendslist.. forever.. Why is the system this way?

If I delete someone, I want them GONE! Friendships come.. and friendships go.. don't get me started on how this can be badnews for people that have accepted those friend spam requests on accident..

Even if you blacklist someone you have previously added and deleted, you remain on their list.. ( I have tested this with a friend)

Now I don't have anyone I am having issues with or anything, but I just think this system is a little weird.. and I think if you delete someone, they should be deleted from your list, and you should be deleted from theirs..

anyone agree? Thanks for reading :)

While blacklists should be one way, this friend deletion thing is the reason I don't delete people. Unless I'm blacklisting them. This one-sided thing means I can keep track of their location and avoid them like the plague.

I accidentally delete friends all the time trying to assign them into groups...

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Originally Posted by Selli

I accidentally delete friends all the time trying to assign them into groups...

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I have to ask, how in heaven's name do you pull that one off!? Whenever I go to delete a friend I get a confirmation telling me if I want to delete the friend. Plus, I can tell by the difference in size in the pop-up window that I goofed and selected the wrong option. What am I missing here?

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Originally Posted by Paladinleeds

I have to ask, how in heaven's name do you pull that one off!? Whenever I go to delete a friend I get a confirmation telling me if I want to delete the friend. Plus, I can tell by the difference in size in the pop-up window that I goofed and selected the wrong option. What am I missing here?

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I don't read the pop-ups, I just absent mindedly click them. D:

You don't want to know how many times I've reset my retainers too...

I usually delete randomly added people (who add me after some dungeon and such) when I don't communicate with them for a month or two, what's the point to keep them if we are not really freinds. And then half year later I get a tell from someone 'hey, can you help with this' and I'm like 'Huh... who is it?..' So yes, it's an issue for me. I have only around 10 active friends but probably in 50-70 other random people's friendlists.

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Originally Posted by Selli

I don't read the pop-ups, I just absent mindedly click them. D:

You don't want to know how many times I've reset my retainers too...

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So the takeaway from this is: READ THE POP-UPS!

I mean maybe I'm just way too attentive, but still (I have to admit, for Leviathan for example, I don't use visual cues to work out where I need to go, I use audible cues - surround sound is a godsend), I pay attention to stuff like that.

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Originally Posted by Selli

I don't read the pop-ups, I just absent mindedly click them. D:
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Story of my life

[QUOTE=Selli;3611364]I don't read the pop-ups, I just absent mindedly click them. D:
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also guilty, but more so with accidentally selling items I need to the NPC

hmhm.. That's actually good to know, thanks! I always had issues deleting people that weren't online for a long time, but I never wanted to delete them just in case they come back (good friends that is). At least now I know I can safely make place for new people and the old ones can still find me just in case they come back!!! whoop

I think the worst side-effect of this is that you can't send another friend request if you accidentally delete said person off your friend list. Well, you can, but your friend won't receive said request because you're still on their friend list. =/ (Same if you or they move to a different server and then change minds and move back.) Not unless the friendship is "ended" from both sides first. And sometimes, especially if one side of the friendship is slightly OCD, that's tricky. (I.e. friends are listed in order of being added, meaning if my very first Eorzean friend were to unfriend me for some reason, and then wanting to be friends again, if I remove said friend they'd no longer be counted as my first Eorzean friend, but rather my latest. And while stuff like that might not be too important to some people, it can be very important to others =/ )

You'd think that if you send a friend request to someone who has you on their list already, the request would be auto-accepted, but no. For some reason it gets auto-declined instead ^^;

Reason I haven't put anyone on my friend list on the server I'm in. People are quick to throw friend invites for various reasons, but experience has taught me that crazy doesn't manifest immediately. I'd rather not deal with potential stalkers in this game, ha.

Yes, I know I'm being paranoid but that's due to years of experience with official and non-official RP servers. I circumvent this handicap with Linkshells though, so I'm not a complete recluse!

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Originally Posted by Selli

I accidentally delete friends all the time trying to assign them into groups...

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i see how it is....

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Originally Posted by Paladinleeds

So the takeaway from this is: READ THE POP-UPS!

I mean maybe I'm just way too attentive, but still (I have to admit, for Leviathan for example, I don't use visual cues to work out where I need to go, I use audible cues - surround sound is a godsend), I pay attention to stuff like that.

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There's so many pop-ups in this game, though. It's so easy to just auto pilot through them. :x

What I want to say about this might be a bit off topic but I HOPE a mod is reading this.

Can we please add a multiple delete option? Cause at the moment when you delete someone the list of friends refreshes and it takes forever trying to delete more than 100 people.

It would be great to have an option to multi delete rather than doing it one by one.

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Originally Posted by Selli

I don't read the pop-ups, I just absent mindedly click them

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I bet you have a lot of extra toolbars on your web browser, don't you...

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Originally Posted by FritoBandito

I bet you have a lot of extra toolbars on your web browser, don't you...

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No?

http://i.imgur.com/zs8ky8i.png

Why would you ever add someone you don't want to be friends with?

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Originally Posted by Dergensaur

Why would you ever add someone you don't want to be friends with?

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If only it were so black and white.

Friend list was originally designed so that both players can keep their track and freely communicate. If something like accident happens, then it's that person's fault.. However, if you delete someone for a reason that you hate that player, especially in OP case. You might want to block that person, and only in that situation, It's completely justified that the other person will no longer see your name on friend list. But I don't think deleting someone from the list should automatically separate both players - and there are many reasons for that.

The thing that bugs me is when I load up my friendlist and am trying to remove a player but then the list repopulates to show online people on top just as I've clicked to delete someone and accepted the pop up. Then I realize that because the list has repopulated, it moved the name of the person I was trying to select and made me select SOMEONE ELSE I didn't mean to delete.

This has happened about 3-4 times now. The upside is, you can re-add them as a friend if they are online and they wont know the difference since they still have you on their list. Even so, its an annoyance.