I need to find a way to make this fun again. @_@

Now, let me preface this in that, for all my bitching, I don't think there's anything REALLY wrong with this game. So like, I'm not going all "RAWR TORCHES AND PITFORKS AND BLARGH."

God, this game is gorgeous. I love just... sitting around in it, being in it, seeing the sights. But I feel so unfulfilled, and I don't know what to do. I just got back two (and a half) weeks ago and I'm already bored. I'm i91 (no big feat, I'm well aware,) but without a reliable static, that's as far as I'm going. I haven't been around long enough for the soldiery gear, and hunts are bloated, over-dramatic messes to begin with for me to go after the Gloam gear, Syrcus tower is one piece a week (and most of it is mediocre to begin with,) and no PuGs want a first timer that's sub i100.

... Reading htat over, it kind of sounds like I'm saying gear is too hard to get, and I am definitely *NOT.* It's just a time investment that I haven't been able to sink in yet.

And I thought, y'know, maybe I should just roll up another class. Warrior and Bard both look tons of fun, and they look *amazing* in their i90 gear... But then, ugh, leveling. There's no quests anymore, and while it's a little faster, it feels SO MUCH longer. Dungeon, dungeon, fate, fate, leve leve leve, dungeon fate fate dungeon fate leve. It's all just mindless, half-AFK grinding.

I don't know. Nothing seems fun anymore. Maybe this is just the wrong game for me, but I want to like it. It's gorgeous, the setting is amazing, but I just can't sink myself into the immersion like I did the first time.

What do I doooo. ;~;

Change servers. Seeing as you're from Balmung, I see nothing but negativity coming from most players who post on forums that are on Balmung.

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Change servers. Seeing as you're from Balmung, I see nothing but negativity coming from most players who post on forums that are on Balmung.

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I only just came here - about a week ago - because I wanted to find RP, but... I dunno. I realized how much I *didn't* know about Eorzea, and the RP scene doesn't really seem very open. Even if I do transfer off, I wouldn't know where to go. I have no real contacts on other servers, except one person on Sargantas (who doesn't come on very often anyway.)

Join us on Mateus. The Hunt groups are actually pretty courteous and helpful as of late, with the exception of B ranks since those are minimal.

If the Hunt doesn't rustle your jimmies, you can always join Coil statics. Plenty of them around here, some learning SCoB. Hell, I'm about to start getting into it this weekend, should be lots of fun. Overall, I've actually had a lot of fun with the people I've met on this server.

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I haven't been around long enough for the soldiery gear, and hunts are bloated, over-dramatic messes to begin with for me to go after the Gloam gear, Syrcus tower is one piece a week (and most of it is mediocre to begin with,) and no PuGs want a first timer that's sub i100.

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Syrcus Tower is perfectly viable at i91. Anyone who would tell you otherwise is insane.

From what I recall, when 2.0 officially went live, Behemoth was to be the major RP server if you're looking for that.

I don't really keep up with it though, so I don't know if that's still the case or if things changed. Someone more knowledgeable would need to clarify.

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Syrcus Tower is perfectly viable at i91. Anyone who would tell you otherwise is insane.

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Oh, er, sorry, miscommunication.

@PuGs, I was talking about T5+. Like... "I can only get one piece a week from ST, AND THUS no one wants etc etc etc"

not much else you can do but do dungeons or leves, thats the best way right now...
imo, it just seems like youre burnt out from the game, again. could leave for a bit and come back.
:/ or try to make more friends to make things really enjoyable. i was in balmung
and people seemed generally friendly to me, and people are friendly here in leviathan as well

I've had around 12yrs of MMORPG experience, which includes burnouts and borderline addiction that would lead to academic problems. At least 6 of those years involved FFXI primarily from launch, and occasionally other MMORPGs played alongside (like WoW). Over the years, I've grown and matured my train of thought, particularly when I started interacting more with those that are not within my immediate circle with these games. So I think I have some grounds to speak on the matter.

A couple things often influence my own views on things, including liking or disliking a game. Certain events may have happened that sours your experience, which doesn't involve genre but specifically title. You may have just grown out of the genre or even grown a degree of impatience towards things that you once had said patience for. The fact you point out that it feels a lot longer to level, and even give the "somewhat" exaggerated example of "dungeon, dungeon, fate, fate, leve leve leve, dungeon..." sort of raises that flag.

Then there's the possibility that the game just isn't for you on the long-term. I don't care for games like Elder Scrolls. I tried to like Morrowind and Skyrim but... I just can't get into it. I tried playing it for a couple hours but the interest just isn't there. It's a series full of lore, freedom, and possibility but... it's not for me.

You know what really keeps me connected to a game these days? It's not the rewards for doing things, though they are nice. It's the people and how the game chooses to bank on that. Housing is something that many modern MMORPGs still don't have. Heck, even a game like WoW is only now working on releasing something similar to it (though I guess you could argue the farm in MoP was the actual first attempt). It's what the game does to connect the people to the world. I don't care very much about endgame, 6yrs of FFXI from launch and 6 years of WoW shortly after launch kinda did me in on the burnout of it. I love to do things with friends on these games. Be it dungeons, exploration, leveling, raids, etc. If it weren't for that, these games don't last long for me... maybe several months to a year.

My time with this genre has sort of gone full circle. I went from being an online newbie back in 2002 > being amazed at gaming reaching the point of "modern high graphics" MMORPGs like FFXI > wanting to explore and make friends > dungeons > hardcore raiding > burnout > casual play > realizing the least stressful and most enjoyable period was the earlier stages prior to hardcore raiding. It's really about enjoying the little things. Maybe people have to grow older and maybe experience the burnout for themselves, but with age comes wisdom, and some of us came to realize that even if that burnout did happen, many people don't realize what went wrong.

So for you OP, in spite of my rambling, I'd probably spend a minute or two trying to think of why you would want to play the game and what you are hoping to get out of it. I'm here for the longhaul because of a lot of old friends playing and to experience the little things that the game has to offer currently, as well as in the future. And believe me, this game has MUCH to offer on that regard.

I suggest logging in, then watching the Netflix, I hear they have a new show that is getting all kinds of buzz yo, it's something like "Orange is Black," I've never seen it, but from the name I would think it is some sort of Sesame Street show for colorblind people and others with learning disabilities/mental challenges.

I'll offer my 2 cents here.

I've been playing for nearly a year. For the last 7 weeks, I have not felt motivated to log in to the game, other than to do my daily expert Dungeon Roulette, and for raid nights.

I have decided to resign from my static earlier this week.

Note - they are not bad people. In fact, they're a really casual bunch, and I really enjoyed playing with them. The reason I am quitting is because...I no longer find the game fun.

At the moment, I am kind of just drifting around. I have been spending time working on my Steam backlog these days outside of daily raid hours, and recently, another group of friends have invited me to play Payday 2 (great game by the way) with them.

It's come to a point where I find nothing in FF fun anymore. I haven't tried any of the new content, but right now I'm tired of doing gauntlet runs (ie. learning how to Ramuh EX). If that is the case, may I suggest you do what I plan to do, and take a break from the game. What I probably need is some 8 - 12 weeks break, I might find it fun again then.

But until then, here is where my love relationship with FFXIV ends (for now, perhaps). I still have 2.5 months of subscription left, and I might just log in casually, maybe just to say hi to some people.

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Looks like Welsper gave you the best answer in general.

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I'm on Balmung as well. If it's RP you're looking for, your going to be screwed going anywhere else. Balmung is your best bet as the second biggest RP server (Gilgamesh) is beginning to fade since the server transfers opened up. I don't have the time or patience to RP with my playstyle quite yet but I'm one of those people that just love coming across it every once in awhile. It brings the world to life and I don't think that's available anywhere else. You know what is available everywhere else? everything that's available on Balmung minus the increased chances of roleplay. I've even had some British friends that came back to Balmung because they thought a more Euro centric server would serve their time constraints better and it didn't seem to be the case.

The RP aspect of Besaid > Balmung had an indirect, albeit significant, impact on the server's diverse population, from those like me who prefer to view it from the outside to the hardcore roleplayers at hydaelyn roleplayers to those that despise RP for whatever reason.

Jumping servers I don't think will fix your problem.

Figuring out what you want from the game should be first and foremost.
Finding out how to experience those things would be the next.

You may just need a break. I just recently burnt myself out on Twintania then took a two to three week break but now I've been renewed by all the new content. The grind burns a lot of people out. Breathe.

A thought: Perhaps work on a different aspect of the game, for now? If working at your combat classes isn't fulfilling, try a class of a different role. I began working on levelling archer about a month back because I needed some cross-class skills; I soon discovered I actually was really having fun with it. Before I knew it, bard was my latest level 50 class and is now i69. (I'm working on my animus staff right now so I haven't been buying myth/soldiery gear for archer.)
If that doesn't work, maybe take up crafting, or even go for mastery on a gathering class? There's a lot of different aspects to the game; if what you're trying isn't appealing anymore, maybe the best thing to do is stop that aspect and give a different one a fresh new look.

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You know what really keeps me connected to a game these days? It's not the rewards for doing things, though they are nice. It's the people and how the game chooses to bank on that.

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Note - they are not bad people. In fact, they're a really casual bunch, and I really enjoyed playing with them. The reason I am quitting is because...I no longer find the game fun.

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I find myself in a similar boat. I started at the beginning of v1 and played practically every single night until it went down. I eagerly awaited ARR and have spent most of my nights in Eorzea since re-launch... but it's just not fun anymore.

I really want to love this game again. I have met some really great people and have some really great memories of things we did together... but almost all of that is from v1 ~ 1.23.

ARR basically killed the community we had from v1 because it's just so convenient and easy to go off and do your own thing with a random group of people. Our old LS/FC is still there but we hardly play together anymore. I've met nice people since the start of ARR, but there is very to make the bonds of friendship stronger.

I'm a healer main and I want to play with and support my friends, not random people who I will probably never see again. So I usually choose to wait and not do content until I can do it with people I enjoy being with. But because of that, most of the time I find myself just sitting there in Limsa... waiting... with everyone coming in and out of DF at different times, and never getting 8 friends together. It's like herding cats... and most of our LS are Hyur and Lalafell, and I'm the Miqo'te!

I really wanted to love this game... but maybe I'm just too selfish for wanting to play with my friends. Maybe it's just not for me anymore. Maybe it's time to stop.

I don't think anyone has pointed this out specifically...

You're on a new server; you're going to feel adrift for a while until you find friends and a good FC. This isn't a fast process. You'll want to put forth the effort to find rp groups that are accepting new people. Hang out in bars and other populated areas until you start to become familiar with some faces. See what direction the rp is going and perhaps contribute informally.

Until you find decent people to go with to endgame, try not to stress about it and level those other classes that pique your interest.

Adapting is going to take time, be patient and good luck. :)

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I find myself in a similar boat. I started at the beginning of v1 and played practically every single night until it went down. I eagerly awaited ARR and have spent most of my nights in Eorzea since re-launch... but it's just not fun anymore.

I really want to love this game again. I have met some really great people and have some really great memories of things we did together... but almost all of that is from v1 ~ 1.23.

ARR basically killed the community we had from v1 because it's just so convenient and easy to go off and do your own thing with a random group of people. Our old LS/FC is still there but we hardly play together anymore. I've met nice people since the start of ARR, but there is very to make the bonds of friendship stronger.

I'm a healer main and I want to play with and support my friends, not random people who I will probably never see again. So I usually choose to wait and not do content until I can do it with people I enjoy being with. But because of that, most of the time I find myself just sitting there in Limsa... waiting... with everyone coming in and out of DF at different times, and never getting 8 friends together. It's like herding cats... and most of our LS are Hyur and Lalafell, and I'm the Miqo'te!

I really wanted to love this game... but maybe I'm just too selfish for wanting to play with my friends. Maybe it's just not for me anymore. Maybe it's time to stop.

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This may seem a bit too obvious and I apologize if so, but have you thought about organizing this stuff yourself rather than waiting on others? I spend most of my in game time trying to organize parties for myself and FC mates and it can be hard going sometimes when people want to do different things and they all have different schedules. Something I've noticed though, when I say "Hey guys, I think you're awesome and we should go kill Mog or something. What do you want to do? Do you have anything you need to do for an atma book or anything? It's better to go with friends. :)", two things will happen: 1: They say "Oh, didn't realized you wanted to hang out." 2. "Yeah, sure!"

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This may seem a bit too obvious and I apologize if so, but have you thought about organizing this stuff yourself rather than waiting on others? I spend most of my in game time trying to organize parties for myself and FC mates and it can be hard going sometimes when people want to do different things and they all have different schedules. Something I've noticed though, when I say "Hey guys, I think you're awesome and we should go kill Mog or something. What do you want to do? Do you have anything you need to do for an atma book or anything? It's better to go with friends. :)", two things will happen: 1: They say "Oh, didn't realized you wanted to hang out." 2. "Yeah, sure!"

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Thank you. That's a great idea and probably the best way to go about it.

I've tried to get people together on many occasions, and it does work at times. But I guess everyone is just so used to going into DF these days and no one really wants to wait around.

What usually happens is we'll get a few people together, but while waiting for others to come out of DF, someone will say "I'll just go do ___ while we wait." Then someone comes out of DF, but that previous person is now occupied.

I don't blame them for wanting to do something rather than wait around. It's a lot more convenient that v1 was. Theme park, after all.

I think I'm just the odd one who would rather do nothing than play solo or play in parties where everyone else might as well be an NPC.

But thank you again for the suggestion. ^^

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Thank you. That's a great idea and probably the best way to go about it.

I've tried to get people together on many occasions, and it does work at times. But I guess everyone is just so used to going into DF these days and no one really wants to wait around.

What usually happens is we'll get a few people together, but while waiting for others to come out of DF, someone will say "I'll just go do ___ while we wait." Then someone comes out of DF, but that previous person is now occupied.

I don't blame them for wanting to do something rather than wait around. It's a lot more convenient that v1 was. Theme park, after all.

I think I'm just the odd one who would rather do nothing than play solo or play in parties where everyone else might as well be an NPC.

But thank you again for the suggestion. ^^

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Friends of mine in the FC said recently (when I asked them about dungeoning with friends) that they just "don't think about it" anymore cause the DF is right there. I only go with people I know, this is why I'm more keenly aware of it.

Keep in mind that sometimes you have to pick doing a dungeon with friends over doing a dungeon you want to do. Don't be afraid to say "Hey, PersonX, we need a dps for DungeonX, you want to come with when you're out of Hullbreaker?" But also, don't be upset if they say no. :) Just say "no problem" and move on.

Do you have more than one class type leveled? Being able to fill more than one role will enable you to join more parties.

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I suggest logging in, then watching the Netflix, I hear they have a new show that is getting all kinds of buzz yo, it's something like "Orange is Black," I've never seen it, but from the name I would think it is some sort of Sesame Street show for colorblind people and others with learning disabilities/mental challenges.

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That's odd. I keep hearing about that show on my server as well.

Try something else you've never done, like Frontlines. Find a circle of friends to play with, friends make even the most monotonous things seem bearable especially if you talk about random stuff or just plain goof off.

If I hit a brick wall, I just go play something else on the side so I don't get completely burned out.

But if nothing is "fun" anymore, it might be time to move on and come back later after another patch or preferably when entire servers stop tripping each over over hunts and actually start doing other things other than ST and hunts.

You'll just get more and more frustrated as time goes on playing something you want to be fun but actually isn't.

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Keep in mind that sometimes you have to pick doing a dungeon with friends over doing a dungeon you want to do. Don't be afraid to say "Hey, PersonX, we need a dps for DungeonX, you want to come with when you're out of Hullbreaker?" But also, don't be upset if they say no. :) Just say "no problem" and move on.

Do you have more than one class type leveled? Being able to fill more than one role will enable you to join more parties.

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Yes, I have everything to Lv50 except for Warrior and Dragoon. I can go as WHM, SCH, BLM, SMN, or BRD, but I haven't tried MNK in ARR and I'm sure I would be a horrible PLD. ^^;

I don't think I'm too picky and will gladly help out a friend to do content even if there's nothing I need from it.

Sorry, I guess I was just venting rather than looking for an answer.
I appreciate the suggestions, but maybe I'm just burnt out. I've been logged in for the past 2 hours... first time since last weekend... and I've just been sitting in Limsa the whole time, hoping my best friend will log in but she hasn't. Oh well. Time for bed.

Your issue is a very common one among ALL servers. I've been around since 2.0 and I can understand what it feels like. They add new content, but it is not all THAT readily available. This might sound an odd suggestion, but you should stop trying to see the game as a progression game until new content comes out. Everyone has different tastes and can find all sorts of new stuff fun and enjoyable.

I, for instance, use the market as my pvp battleground! It is a load of fun to fight over profits!

If you aren't having fun, try looking for a more fun based FC. Some even try to gain access to the new higher level content and are on the same level as you. All in all, you need to just view the game as a means for fun and look for fun directly. My FC never does the same progression, but we ask for help and just try to have fun even if it's random. Sometimes fun includes watching Ragnheider strip down to a subligar and chase our neighbor into his house while doing some unholy act of twisted emote combinations.

Fun will come if you search for it, just don't feel limited to what you can search. There's a lot more out there than you will notice.

Grind Atma.

Have you tried leveling up crafting and gathering classes? Maybe it's not your thing, but a couple of weeks before 2.3 went live, I was basically stuck - I had really not much left to do in terms of progress as I had given up on Titan EX and was waiting for more Echo in T5, so the only thing left do to was beast tribe quests and Atma books. I decided to seriously start leveling up my DoL/DoH clases and it's like I rediscovered the game and Eorzea. Those weeks before 2.3 came I woldn't even change in DoM gear except to get a couple of skins from mobs to turn into leather. Give it a chance if you feel like it.

Hey Faedra, I've seen you running around Ul'dah a few times, me and a friend just transferred to Balmung from Sarg for the same reasons as you. If you haven't already you should check out http://ffxiv-roleplayers.com/index.php good community to get started and look me up in game sometime, were on most evenings.

I just came back after a break I started after defeating Levi EX for the first time. I have minimal desire to advance through end game content. I instead travel the world and take candid shots of players, upload them right away and send them a link. It's been A LOT of fun and it helps me break out of my shell and socialize with people. It's been a very rewarding experience and I've met some good people.

Honestly I always find the make or break of an MMO is whether or not I get involved in a good small community. Running dungeons with randoms for the gear scramble gets boring quickly.

That said if you just don't like the game right now try something else for a bit and see if you get the urge to come back!