Staying Interested (how to keep playing when you feel lonely?)

My boyfriend and I have been playing for at least three months now, and the game is interesting. We think it's fun, I love the lore and world, there's just one issue.

We originally joined the Balmung server because our old Linkshell buddies from FFXI would be in this server. They don't come on anymore, and it seems everyone on this server is really interesting in role-playing with each other and not much for making random friends.

To put it simply, we're loosing interest because it's always just us online or we haven't made any new friends. One of the reasons I play MMORPGs is to play with others.

Does anyone have any advice? I'm not asking for friends, at all (otherwise I would just place this topic in the Balmung section).

My ideas:

* Pay $18 per character and transfer them to a less-RPing world or a friendly world
* Make new characters (which I personally don't mind, but him... :P) and do the above in hopes to find new hope, and make friends

Changing servers wouldn't be a bad idea, if you have the spare cash and the will to do.

Do Titan EX. I've made like 20 friends in 4 days, which I hadn't the past 3 months..

There's always constant shouts here on Balmung for FCs and LSs.
You guys should try and join one that fits your playstyle ^^

Nothing new to add..... Other than I remember always seeing you two out in the wild together!

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Originally Posted by Richiealvian

Do Titan EX. I've made like 20 friends in 4 days, which I hadn't the past 3 months..

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I've also made 20 friends :)

Search for a fc on your Server that fits your taste (if possible with ts), talking with People who are playing the same game (or just Hearing their rants) is quit enjoyable.

Come join us in Tantalus on Midgardsormr! No join-up requirements, we have a house and are saving for a big one. We have a great community that is always helping and chatting. We have FB, a website and RaidCall for voice chat.

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Originally Posted by Mykll

Nothing new to add..... Other than I remember always seeing you two out in the wild together!

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Haha, that's interesting. It would be funny to know if people knew about us because we always travel together.

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Originally Posted by Edenholt

Changing servers wouldn't be a bad idea, if you have the spare cash and the will to do.

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Maybe we could temporarily join another server with new characters and see if anything happens - such as new interest due to community or friends in general.

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Originally Posted by Richiealvian

Do Titan EX. I've made like 20 friends in 4 days, which I hadn't the past 3 months..

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Haha, we're not that high leveled yet. :P

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Originally Posted by Avlon

Come join us in Tantalus on Midgardsormr! No join-up requirements...

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That's always an option for when we change servers. :P

I know what you mean. I was really tight with my FFXI LS, but I never really felt the same degree of friendship with people in FFXIV. I think FFXI was just such an impossible game to do anything without a good group of friends that the game mechanics created stronger bonds between people.
With FFXIV, you can pretty much solo most of the time and you don't even need friends to group. You can just queue and wait for random people who usually don't talk and jump out as soon as the instance is over. It's definitely designed for maximum progression which seems to be what most of the MMO community wants post-WoW.
TBH, I don't think you will find it any different in any other server. It's the game mechanics that cause people to come and go and not really feel the need to bond.
Just keep looking and chatting people up. You're bound to find someone else in the same boat as you and looking to do more than just level up.

I'm sure the fee is to transfer all your characters from one server to another. Why don't you start your own link shell with people who have similar issues on the server.

I play alone all the time and I don't belong to an fc either! Get all of your crafting jobs to 50! Oh and your gathering jobs too! (Except fishing, dats just boring and useless) make your crafting AF gear too!

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Originally Posted by Miss-Strawberrii

My boyfriend and I have been playing for at least three months now, and the game is interesting. We think it's fun, I love the lore and world, there's just one issue.

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We'd hate to loose you on Balmung. I just tried reaching out to you in-game, looks like your offline -- shoot me a /tell or w/e when you're on, maybe my FC would be a fit for you guys. Even if that doesn't work out, were always looking for new friends and would love to help you out with whatever we can!

Best of luck, whatever you decide!

(Gridania Surveyors; website: gridania.shivtr.com

I have noticed, that it certainly is different making friends in this game than in FFXI. Chatting with randoms seldomly works, and even FC chats seem dead at times. Then I got on their voice chat that they have and became aware that it more lively and I have developed friendships.

Seems more and more guilds/FC are using voice chatting services in this day and age and that is how many people communicate. If only the game implemented this feature itself for at the very least dungeons it might not feel so lonely in the world.

I feel you OP, we transferred to a Legacy server as well in hopes that we'll be able to play with more people from 1.0 who introduced us the game, and guess what? Out of 20 people who were there, only 3 are left. Now we're stuck in Legacy server.

I'm member of a fairly small (relatively speaking) FC. We generally have 5-15 players on most of the day. We have no members outside of NA though, so maybe not a good place if you're not in north or South America. However, if you're interested look me up in game! We're a tight group but there's always room for more. You'll find us very helpful and social, never a dull moment where Kindred FC is concerned!

I would vote for finding a FC or LS that fits your style. I don't know how much changing servers would really help in the long run, as this game really does seem to foster a solo/silent play-style. My guess is that other servers are pretty similar.

Sadly, you're stuck on Balmung for now if you want to keep your original characters since legacy servers aren't open to transfer yet. I know you said you're not looking for friends, but I do think the social aspect of this game makes it a lot more tolerable and fun.