Character Creation Character Loss

So, I went ahead and found out that the server my friends are on opened up. I go and make a character as SOON as I am able to. Customize him, give him a date of birth, a god to worship, and a name, and put him on Sargatanas. Cool!

The character is accepted and it asks if I want to play him right now. Unfortunately for me, I had to go pick up my niece from daycare so I couldn't and selected no, knowing I would come back in a couple hours to go ahead and play a little. So I leave to go pick her up, watch her a bit till her mom comes to pick her up and then come back up to play this character. I set up to load the game and then I get the message...

Apparently, the character that it told me was ready to play now no longer existed on that server and so I couldn't play him. So...Had I just apparently said, 'yeah, load me in to play!' I woulda been fine, but because I didn't my place was given away to someone else? Is my character not supposed to have a reserved spot in there since he was already created for that server!? I'm feeling a bit cheated here that, because I couldn't play immediately, the spot I had set up was given away to someone else even though I practically reserved it.

I don't really feel like paying money for a character transfer since I literally JUST HAD THE SPOT and I don't feel like waiting another couple weeks for a spot to open up so what can I do? Is there any way I can be given my spot back that got pulled out from under me?