In terms of skill speed, I\\'d say don\\'t worry about it. You won\\'t have enough of it across your gear without materia to make a difference. Those materia slots would be better used by adding STR, Parry, Dex or Determination.
As far as gaining and holding hate, it might help if you shared your typical skill rotation.
I wrote a short guide on my LS website that may help with a few things and I\\'m sure others here will give plenty of additional advice as well.
http://www.abaddon.us/phpBB3/page.php?p=gld-guide