Please make it harder to stalk people

I've seen many cases when a friend's ex or a guy interested in friend has gone out of their way to look for them in the world without consent. Whether that's in Limsa, at their house, while they're gathering in the middle of the Sea of Clouds. Once is a coincidence. Two, sketchy. More than that? That's .... deliberate.

Once you friends list someone, even if you delete them from your friends list, they still have you on their list. They can still see where you are, if you're online, send you tells regardless of world location. (Blacklist can block /tells yes, but that doesn't negate the other bits.) I really don't understand this. I can't think of any other form of social that doesn't at least let you soft-block someone to get someone unwanted from following you. Please make this a two-way removal.

The same goes for the in-game player search. Maybe the player search is meant to help you find if your completely new to xiv friend is online, so you can send them a /tell and meet up with them. But giving the entire public the ability to find out where you is unnecessary.
(Honestly I don't understand why you would use the in-game player search aside from these two reasons, or a scammer sending scam /tells to complete randoms.)

And while the blacklist/block list does block tells from unwanted people. They can still enter your house ? I can understand if it's not possible to keep people out of an FC house, but at least it should stop unwanted people from entering your apartment or personal house.

Please, Square, even if you making 'stalking' against ToS, you are still giving these people the tools to make it easier for them to do it. Yes, a dedicated stalker could bypass restrictions if you took these tools away, but it would at least make them work harder to stalk. And it would make it easier to prove that they're putting in the effort to do this.
Ideally it would make less dedicated stalkers give up and find something else to do with their lives.

I would also like a way to appear offline when I wish to craft alone like a hermit. I really like the player search so I can see where unwanted interactions may occur by searching for a person I do not have friended any longer. Unfortunately they have since made an alt on my server and found me while I was crafting in my inn room, so I can see how this is a bad things as well. I am torn about the player search honestly. I hate it but also love it to find newly joined friends or people I forgot to friend in a dungeon when I go to their home world and stuffs. I can see where they are and say hey before returning back to my world. It is also helpful when wishing to deliver things to people you do not have friended. Who may send you a tell after advertising to craft stuff for people.

I don't know why houses are not key based. You should either have the option to make your house private or public and be able to black list people from being near the property. I know for a fact if and when this housing bug is fixed unless someone in my fc scares the person off they will show up at my house unannounced. In other aspects not being able to ban someone from your property who is being disruptive in an event is also not good. swtor had a key system and if someone was being rowdy and causing issues at an rp event by riding a bantha and jumping on top of everyone and running around like a mad person they would be told to relax and stop doing that. If they became further disruptive by letting off huge fireworks and large graphical emotes they could be kicked from the venue. The only thing I didn't like about it was there was no admin keys so you couldn't allow for a friend to help you decorate with admin privileges to your house/stronghold.

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Originally Posted by Taku14

Once you friends list someone, even if you delete them from your friends list, they still have you on their list. They can still see where you are, if you're online, send you tells regardless of world location. (Blacklist can block /tells yes, but that doesn't negate the other bits.) I really don't understand this. I can't think of any other form of social that doesn't at least let you soft-block someone to get someone unwanted from following you. Please make this a two-way removal.

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Or if the oft-stated concerns remain about Japanese players not wanting to let a former friend know of the removal, give players the option to make the removal two-way. Then players could decide based on the cultural and social context whether to remove themselves from the former friend's friends list, reducing both drama and stalking.