solved: character data messed up after zodiark maintenance
the problem: my lvl 77 character now all of a sudden only has skills/traits upto lvl 50 and the hotbars are all messed up as well.
tried switching back/forth between jobs
tried logging off, switching to an alt (all fine there), logging off and picking main again
tried exit game, login
FIX:
someone in an instance asked me why i was still a pugilist and not a monk.
i must've removed my soul crystal when i removed my gear to lower my dps (i needed to damage a lvl 25 tree near quarrymill to unlock levequests)
apparently the pug skills cap at 50
so the fact it was close to the zodiark maintenance time was purely coincidence