How to unlock The Whorleater Extreme?

Hi all, newish player here, been playing for 2 months.

I am trying to complete the wondrous tails (for the first time ever) but I have not unlocked all the content. I have googled how to unlock the whorleater extreme (I have the hard version already in my roueltte). I did the MSQs, and I checked if I can pick up the quest "a whorl of time" in Western Thanalan but I do not have it available. Can someone help me?

My feedback: I do not like this system of having to do certain quests to unlock dungeons, just not for me, especially since there is no straightforward way of knowing what I need to do to unlock them. It would be very helpful if, perhaps, there was some sort of a checklist in game, which lists all the dungeons, raids, trials one can unlock, with a list of requirements written down.

First of all, part of games IS to explore the world. This straight rundown from questsymbol to questsymbol is actually boring.

Second, you´ve to talk to Urianger in the hideout multiple times and need to beat one after the other EX primal.

Urianger... Waking Sands.... Vesper Bay (Thanalan).... Blue Icon over his head.

I think this is where Sunny is directing you. Sunny sucks with directions. Its just... Urianger at the hideout. lol.

I can almost hear Sunny screaming...

"The boy beside the tree. What part of that don't you understand? Boy, Tree. Are we not speaking the same language? Hello, is this thing on? Tap, tap, tap.

lol sorry Sunny. I'm just in that mood and I figured you'd be ok with being picked on for a few minutes lol.