DRK SPOILERS

I've gotten DRK to 60. I've done the first set of quests. I've had the realization.

My mind though keeps refusing to let me actually realize the depths of it.

"It was me" and all that, yes, I get it. Silent hero finally isn't silent, but refuses to view the voice as his.

But also, we left Rielle in the bar, alone? Her shouting at him, was her shouting at ME? She was that easy to take, because nobody was defending her... and that's part of why she's mad at us?

What else is there in terms of nasty little suprizes if I was to start a new character and level through DRK again, knowing what I know now?

(and is there a good topic that can really slap me up the face with just HOW oblivious I've been being?)

I think you're crossing the wires a bit there. Sidurgu is his own person completely independent of you. Your shadow goes by the name Fray (and sometimes Esteem, or just using your name)