hello n_n i'm going to group hug you all now and none of you can stop it---
If you're looking for a relaxed, mid-sized group of people with plenty of experience, my suggestion is the DarkFire FC! The majority of DarkFire is very laid-back and active, though some are interested in reaching the full potential of their characters' jobs/professions/rotations/gears/etc. We have numerous crafters and gatherers as well and are always helping one another to reach varying goals.
Late nights can be slow at times but usually there is at least one social player online during those wee hours. c:
Our chat is chill with few rules. Essentially just don't be hella r00d cause that's not cool. Simple common sense stuff. We use Discord and have a FB, too. Good luck to you guys in finding your little nook in the Faerie world!
Take care!