Wedding Issue

so here what happen i going to get marry may 20 at 8pm central time on diabolis what happen he didnt show up and he been avoiding there way to get marry without having to buy it again i just put 10$ on this account for the chocobo mount and wedding just to get it im not sure what to do. i heard if i abandon the quest i have to redo the whole pay 10$ again that be bummer all my money is waste i just want some advice what happen.

I believe the two of you just need to form a party again, talk to the wedding person (outside the church) and reschedule a new date (for free). If you want to do it with a different partner though, then yes you'd have to throw away the ring and pay again/start over.