Buff priority?

I've seen this in a couple of matches, and idk how it is on the US datacenters but I play on Tonberry (Elemental datacenter) and I usually get Japanese players which are leaps and bounds more polite than the toxic stuff I hear about here. But what is with players, melee in particular that thing they are entitled to both offense AND defense buffs, and then do this passive aggressive "..." or whatnot when I, as a BLM take the defense debuff? Especially if they don't ask in the first place.

Anyways this is for solo queue, what do you all think is the best distribution of the initial buffs? I think it depends on the comp, and if there's a blm in the party no doubt they should get defense buff.

Because the offensive debuff is really dangerous without the def debuff. Plus it helps buffer blood for blood damage and generally lets the buffed dps last longer which. So they will either focus you without the def, but you are not attack buffed, or focus the buffed melee with the damage buff and no def buff. Which do you think is better? (This question is kind of subjective, not being sarcastic. I think different people think different things. Personally I like when the melee grabs both)

Assuming youve expereinced this OP since youve made a post about it (actually been to Tonberry-elemental and ended up coming back BECAUSE it was so polite there (no ghostly teabagging lalas named knives just makes my life boring >_>) But ya, since, im guessing, people in general dont see blm as top tier, melees feel more inclined, when in pt with one, to do the job themselves and let the blm be cannon fodder lol. Wouldnt take it personal..sometimes tanks take offensive buffs in view of continued offense over squishy dps.