is this a common occurrence?

I was doing Brayflox longstop with a friend earlier and i was playing on my level 32 scholar. Everything was going pretty well until we made it to Aiatar. Our tank couldn't dodge the aoe attack to save his life so i couldn't do anything to keep him standing. We wiped twice and all of a sudden my friend says "bro their trying to boot you." I was obviously upset so i asked them what the reasoning was and the tank says "your accessories are under leveled." The two dps told him how stupid that was so he left and we cleared it first try with the new tank.

I hope this isn't what healing is like, because that's the whole reason i stopped maining my tank. I hate how much blame people throw around in this game. Its very discouraging some times.

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Originally Posted by skillmatic320

I was doing Brayflox longstop with a friend earlier and i was playing on my level 32 scholar. Everything was going pretty well until we made it to Aiatar. Our tank couldn't dodge the aoe attack to save his life so i couldn't do anything to keep him standing. We wiped twice and all of a sudden my friend says "bro their trying to boot you." I was obviously upset so i asked them what the reasoning was and the tank says "your accessories are under leveled." The two dps told him how stupid that was so he left and we cleared it first try with the new tank.

I hope this isn't what healing is like, because that's the whole reason i stopped maining my tank. I hate how much blame people throw around in this game. Its very discouraging some times.

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Some inexperienced tanks think that they are more indestructible than they are and that they should be able to eat just about anything with healer support. Even at high levels of play this is often untrue since the tank should still use cooldowns and generally try to avoid AoEs.

Switch to whm so u can stoneskin urself lol
"Grow thicker skin" to shield urself from the barrage of wtfs in df. It only gets worse.
Steps of faith lol!

Lol i think I'm a decent player. I want to feel challenged so i like the idea of tanking or healing, but the duty finder crowd is just brutal sometimes. My friend who left destiny with me plays a dps. Even he gets shit pretty frequently and it's a lot less noticeable when dps makes a mistake.

Unfortunately, the best advice to give is "grow a thicker skin" (and I say that without sarcasm or malice, trust me). You're going to run into idiots who think they are God given's gift and cannot be faulted but when you disassemble their attitude, gear, and skill, they're pretty much terrible.

Don't give up and don't let go!

I will definitely take that advice. I've done the dungeon 5 times since without problems. It was just my first time and it bothered me that i was being blamed for the groups failure.

Lol but i like being able to dps in certain situations :)

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Originally Posted by skillmatic320

I was doing Brayflox longstop with a friend earlier and i was playing on my level 32 scholar. Everything was going pretty well until we made it to Aiatar. Our tank couldn't dodge the aoe attack to save his life so i couldn't do anything to keep him standing. We wiped twice and all of a sudden my friend says "bro their trying to boot you." I was obviously upset so i asked them what the reasoning was and the tank says "your accessories are under leveled." The two dps told him how stupid that was so he left and we cleared it first try with the new tank.

I hope this isn't what healing is like, because that's the whole reason i stopped maining my tank. I hate how much blame people throw around in this game. Its very discouraging some times.

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From experience...

Tank dies, healer's fault. Healer dies, tank's fault. End point. Party wipes, everyone at fault.

If you are playing a Healer, you priority is not letting people die, it is not your fault if the party is actively making it hard. Healer gear isn't quite as relevant as Tank gear is, since Healers are about timing. If you're really undergeared, you'd run out of MP super-fast. DPS aren't usually to blame for a wipe, but if they are not trying to avoid taking damage (particularly SMN, BLM and BRD) then then stop healing them and keep focus on the Tank. If DPS dies, then that is their fault.

Most of the time DPS die due to monster mechanics. Tanks die from overestimating their abilities, or doing stupid things.

First time I did Brayflox our tank was a high end well geared raider who just started running his own show. Me (WHM) and a dragoon DPS were brand new just learning the event. We were ok till the big swamp area where he suddenly ran off and aggroed the whole area telling us to meet him at the next mini boss. Of course we didn't know where that was so we followed best we could but I guess took too long cause the train of mobs following him killed him.

After we respawned he started berating me and the DRG... Even after telling him it was our first time and telling him he should back off and be a bit more clear his strategy. I just decided to quit the dungeon and eat the 30 min penalty since he just kept on insulting us. I think next time I would just let them kick me to avoid the penalty.

"Those players" are out there. Some of them are pretty good at game mechanics but lack social skills like patience and tact which can make it hard to play online with them.

I consider it a very important part of my job as a DPS/tank to make the healers' lives easier in any way I can. If a tank consistently gets hit by avoidable damage, he's making your life very difficult and anyone trying to blame you for the inevitable wipes is a moron. :p This will happen, and even worse, people with short tempers make situations like this a lot worse. Not much we can do about it except votekick and report if the insults become a problem.