So this just happened.....
Roulette WP - Tank starts pulling for a speed run without telling anyone. Dies on one pull.
Me: "I'm all for a speed run, but maybe you could just pull what you can handle in between cool downs."
Tank not quite verbatim: "I suck. Do my job right"
Me: "This isn't a pissing match."
It was at this point I really really really contemplated just not healing him anymore until he died. I bit my tongue and "did my job".
On the King I realize my cooldowns are still not up, and it doesn't work through the rancor/mob, I felt bad. He died, but we just beat the King immediately after...so I apologize, but while my apology landed on deaf ears (he raged out immediately after sending this)
(Tank) Next time don't blame the Tank for your lack of being a skilled whm who dnt cleric n holy n cant keep up
Sigh, it just boggles my mind how he got so defensive when I didn't even come close to blaming him for anything.