I don't think anyone would be resentful of others for a vanity item - I've yet to see anyone in my server call out anyone in say with mean-spirited comments about them obtaining a vanity item. Thankfully, we play a game where there are no "GOD Players" - i.e. players that everyone follows around and grovels at because of their "accomplishments" (commending is different to "Well LeetLeroy is God in this area, so he knows what he's talking about").
I think we're QQing at RNG - the mother of all baneful mistresses - and trying to understand why Derplina #1 got lucky versus Derplina #2. I reckon if FFXIV pumped out more vanity items a month like other MMO's, this would help tie over the yuppies like myself, admittedly, until we get lucky with the super rare stuff - and you'd see less QQ.
