Keeping Content Hard and Helping People Learn

And if she had fun, great. It then ended up worthwhile content for her, at least when/as encouraged by friends, etc. But that doesn't mean it will be for everyone. Not everyone will enjoy themselves on the way to those successes, or possibly even even in just from the first clear's run onward, to make that worth their while, especially under those circumstances. Just as not everyone will want to do DD or Exploratory Missions. (See also the reaction to WoW players being forced to do the equivalent of each just to be competitive in raids.)

For instance, I straight up don't like most battlegrounds in WoW, instead preferring 2v2 arena, and would rather prog M+ to well above the difficulty of some Mythic raid progression friends would deem undue masochism than doing Mythic raid progression myself.

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Originally Posted by Shurrikhan

It's really not. The conclusion it generates is simply that one's time is valuable enough to spend it where one wants to spend it, and not merely in route to whatever arbitrary milestone they could potentially reach. That doesn't make a person lazy, only deliberate.

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That has absolutely nothing to do with what I said.

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Originally Posted by Valence

Your view screams very... american culture to me, not gonna lie. Living to work instead of working to live, etc. Always trying to overdo oneself to reach imaginary goals while missing what actually matters on the way. Very sports talk in a way, which tends to echo very well with a lot of raiders in the game imo.

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I am genuinely mystified at how you could extrapolate all of that from what was basically "good job, believe in your dreams." Maybe in Europe when someone says they want to accomplish something it's common to tell them to go to hell, I wouldn't know, but I try to believe in people more often than not. Obviously this doesn't mean I think they should abandon all free will and throw themselves into the most ball busting challenge imaginable. They can choose to do whatever suits their fancy.

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Originally Posted by CidHeiral

That has absolutely nothing to do with what I said.




I am genuinely mystified at how you could extrapolate all of that from what was basically "good job, believe in your dreams." Maybe in Europe when someone says they want to accomplish something it's common to tell them to go to hell, I wouldn't know, but I try to believe in people more often than not. Obviously this doesn't mean I think they should abandon all free will and throw themselves into the most ball busting challenge imaginable. They can choose to do whatever suits their fancy.

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The three people most associated with that phrase are Martin Luther King Jr., Eleanor Roosevelt, and Walt Disney.

And free will doesn't exist.

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Originally Posted by Altina_Orion

You'll never learn if you never try, and you have already expressed that you don't care to in other posts many times over. You don't need speed, i promise. I brought my girlfriend into savage and she was AWFUL. like 30% abc, didnt know to do damage as a healer, got hit with basically every mechanic, struggled to learn new mechanics. She has now cleared every single savage since EWs launch.

There has not been a single person who has wanted to learn savage that I have failed to teach. Not a single person. It's simply a matter of wanting to put in the effort. If you don't want to because you don't think you will enjoy it, fine. If you just are ok with being bad, also fine. "It's impossible for me but i never actually put in the time or effort to do it," get over yourself. Just be honest and say you don't care to learn, not that you can't do it.

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The content requires a higher degree of cognitive processing --> action speed than I possess.

How do I know this? Because I am me.

Why are you wrong? Because you are you.

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Originally Posted by Altina_Orion

You'll never learn if you never try, and you have already expressed that you don't care to in other posts many times over. You don't need speed, i promise. I brought my girlfriend into savage and she was AWFUL. like 30% abc, didnt know to do damage as a healer, got hit with basically every mechanic, struggled to learn new mechanics. She has now cleared every single savage since EWs launch.

There has not been a single person who has wanted to learn savage that I have failed to teach. Not a single person. It's simply a matter of wanting to put in the effort. If you don't want to because you don't think you will enjoy it, fine. If you just are ok with being bad, also fine. "It's impossible for me but i never actually put in the time or effort to do it," get over yourself. Just be honest and say you don't care to learn, not that you can't do it.

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What is this obsession people have with having everybody "learning"? People just want to have fun.

The problem isn't that savage or whatever is completely closed to most if not all players. The problem is that it becomes too much of a hassle, effort, or hurdle, for many to continue enjoying the game. There is an insistence in the community that everybody should constantly try to reach for the stars just because it's technically possible, which as an ex veteran raider, I do find pretty wild to be honest. It's not a question of possibilities, it's a question of effort and work, which can be absolutely through the roof for a lot of players. I've never needed to deploy crazy amounts myself (until more recently), but I sure as hell wouldn't have bothered if I sucked at the game. It's like asking a kid that sucks at math to enjoy it and still aim for high studies in science just because with a little (a lot of) work they can. Guess what their answer will be?

They'll do it if they have fun, they won't if they don't. It's not exactly rocket science.

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Originally Posted by CidHeiral

I am genuinely mystified at how you could extrapolate all of that from what was basically "good job, believe in your dreams." Maybe in Europe when someone says they want to accomplish something it's common to tell them to go to hell, I wouldn't know, but I try to believe in people more often than not. Obviously this doesn't mean I think they should abandon all free will and throw themselves into the most ball busting challenge imaginable. They can choose to do whatever suits their fancy.

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I mean, you literally said "everybody can achieve anything if they put their mind into it", which you'll excuse me sounded pretty much differently, but if that was just about believing in one's dreams and have confidence, then I guess this is a storm in a kettle then. And it's pretty much besides the point that is whether or not you have such dreams, aspirations and goes to begin with. A lot of people just don't, and assuming that they do, or consistently insisting or telling them that they could, really reminded me of that person I know that was told by americans, verbatim, that if they also know carpentry beyond their gardening little job, then they should start designing garden pagodas and whatnot and mount a business out of it.

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Originally Posted by Valence

What is this obsession people have with having everybody "learning"? People just want to have fun.

The problem isn't that savage or whatever is completely closed to most if not all players. The problem is that it becomes too much of a hassle, effort, or hurdle, for many to continue enjoying the game. There is an insistence in the community that everybody should constantly try to reach for the stars just because it's technically possible, which as an ex veteran raider, I do find pretty wild to be honest. It's not a question of possibilities, it's a question of effort and work, which can be absolutely through the roof for a lot of players. I've never needed to deploy crazy amounts myself (until more recently), but I sure as hell wouldn't have bothered if I sucked at the game. It's like asking a kid that sucks at math to enjoy it and still aim for high studies in science just because with a little (a lot of) work they can. Guess what their answer will be?

They'll do it if they have fun, they won't if they don't. It's not exactly rocket science.

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If you read anything i said, you would know i agree.

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If you don't want to because you don't think you will enjoy it, fine. If you just are ok with being bad, also fine.

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I simply hate when people say they are incapable without putting in any effort to try.

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Originally Posted by Mawlzy

Oh, I don't think it's patience. I'm genuinely fascinated by the massive gulf between different segments of the FFXIV community, particularly because I see it reflected in the polarizations in the real world.

Here's an example that is trivial, but had me sitting slack jawed:



Setting aside the predictable insult that I am close-minded, why would I enjoy watching speedruns and challenge runs? Or more importantly, why would anyone assume I would enjoy watching such content when I've made it clear I regard current instanced PvE in FFXIV as dogshit? More generally, I don't watch other people playing video games (unless it's a guide to get through another awful MSQ dungeon). It doesn't interest me in the slightest.

Now I understand there are some people who do watch others playing video games, else we wouldn't be blighted with content creators and influencers. But why do people who enjoy such content have this unshakeable conviction that they understand my interests better than I do? It's truly perverse.

I think I know better than anyone else what my capabilities in raids and dungeons are, and what my leisure interests are. And yet in multiple threads on these boards, I'm told I am wrong. It's an aggressive negation of the feelings of others and it's extremely unhealthy.

I've never come across such arrogance in any community, gaming or otherwise. I'm glad I'm leaving it.

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It's because people mistake validation for value. They get mad when you don't need it and so they try to insult you to make you feel 'lesser'. It's a defense mechanism to protect their fragile egos. You know your own capabilities better than them and they can't use the same motivational tactics that were used on them to work on you and it pisses them off lol.

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Originally Posted by Altina_Orion

If you read anything i said, you would know i agree.


I simply hate when people say they are incapable without putting in any effort to try.

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If this is in reference to me, may I ask how you know how much effort I have put in?

I guess you know absolutely everything about the abilities of people you have never met, so you must be psychic or something?

Do you suppose I would openly admit to my gaming inadequacies had I not spent hundreds of hours assessing them for myself? Honestly it's slightly embarrassing that a child could complete these hand-eye coordination tasks and I can't, but here we are.

It's completely analogous to the fact that my chess Elo in rapid and blitz were indistinguishable 40 years ago, whereas now the two are offset by 400 points. I process information slower.

One reason I've been brutally honest about my limitations is to show solidarity with and support to others who are abused for being "lazy" and "self-sabotaging" and "defeatist" and a host of other insults. Anyone making such judgments would hang their heads in shame if they had one iota of empathy.

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Originally Posted by Mawlzy

The three people most associated with that phrase are Martin Luther King Jr., Eleanor Roosevelt, and Walt Disney.

And free will doesn't exist.

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Originally Posted by Valence

I mean, you literally said "everybody can achieve anything if they put their mind into it", which you'll excuse me sounded pretty much differently, but if that was just about believing in one's dreams and have confidence, then I guess this is a storm in a kettle then. And it's pretty much besides the point that is whether or not you have such dreams, aspirations and goes to begin with. A lot of people just don't, and assuming that they do, or consistently insisting or telling them that they could, really reminded me of that person I know that was told by americans, verbatim, that if they also know carpentry beyond their gardening little job, then they should start designing garden pagodas and whatnot and mount a business out of it.

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Alright, I have no desire to continue talking in circles. Clearly we have a fundamental difference in worldview and that's fine. I came here to leave a nice comment to someone, not debate the nature of human potential. Let's leave it at that.

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Originally Posted by Altina_Orion

If you read anything i said, you would know i agree.


I simply hate when people say they are incapable without putting in any effort to try.

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Ok then, fair enough. It's very possible that both "sides" are also fighting windmills and have more common ground in reality.

Certain words can be triggering. Or at least, I know some like "putting in effort" and "pulling one's own weight" certainly are for me, I'll freely admit.