My ideology behind parses is how to improve vs mechanics. What is your point? That some idiots use them as e-peen meters? That lasted very shortly in WoW and shouldn't be considered as a thing in FF14 at all.
Want to know what really matters? Clearing 200 solo, clearing kefka god, etc...
That's when parses matter globally. The rest of the time they are an indicator of if you should read up on your class, learn about a boss fight or mechanics, etc...
You can clear most content with your thumb in a special place and people will usually not comment about it, if they do, you're either in a farm party - for which you should definitely know what the heck you're doing - or it's misplaced. Yet every opportunity of learning is on you.
If you're in a learning party, you should ask questions if you're not sure. If you're blind and ask nothing after 1-2 wipes, that's on you and you're wasting everyone's time.
There are legitimately very few occasions where it's on you but if you're in those situations, don't be the idiot.
Edit: again, if idiots keep teasing you about logs/meters, report them. Don't assume they're the only ones running them. Most run them for themselves.
