Of course Hermes loves Meteion. That doesn’t stop him from being abusive and loving himself much more than he does her, though.
1. He creates a person that is so pained by mild disagreements, yet never thinks that she might meet things like that on her lonely journey to the stars. He sends her out there specifically without support, assuming the good people of other stars will raise his daughter(s) for him.
2. He’s dismissive of her in really callous ways? I already mentioned the food thing, but it comes out in other ways, too. For example, when Meteion carefully searches all over for a way to help make him feel better and finds out you can also make the Elpis flowers change color, after you show Hermes, at the end he dismisses the gesture because “Meteion asked you to do it.”
3. She didn’t even want flowers when she came back initially! She wanted to share a meal with someone she cared about, accepting flowers only when Hermes dismissed what she asked for outright.
4. She doesn’t want to give her report! It’s causing her real mental and physical harm from the strain, but NOT giving it is never an option for Hermes. The idea of prizing her over himself and his depression isn’t even worth a second of consideration.
5. The only time Hermes apologizes to Meteion is when he thinks she won’t be able to fulfill her function. He compares their fates—even though if the Convocation had succeeded in bringing them into custody, she’s likely the only one facing death—and then laments that she’s not able to give him the answer he wants. That’s it. No apology for the trauma he put her through. No sadness over the two of them being separated forever. Just angst over her not being able to give a report she didn’t want to give in the first place.
