This. I was in one of the more popular FCs for about a month before I left it. I asked for 3 days solid for help from the 100+ people on learning Susano Ex and going through the lvl 70 dungeons as healer (because I main BLM). I got absolute silence in response, for 3 days solid. When there were like 40+ people online. My sister, who was also in the fc, was just in the lower levels herself and even she couldn't get help with anything. A lot of people who were online either sat around in Gridania, Limsa, or Kugane, or were pairing up with friends to run content they wanted to (Raba, sometimes Frontlines, and very infrequently any lvl 70 stuff).
I ran into a former fc member the other day, someone who told me that I should be "trying to play and improve to be like a top tier/world first player", the first that person asked me was "are you still going on about Susano Ex?" When I asked what they meant, they said "I dunno, you just seemed to be asking about it a lot." Uh, yeah. It's content I wanted to get competent at with the added incentive of maybe getting the mount (still haven't gotten it).
I have found that a lot, though, on this server. There are a LOT of crafters/gatherers. The people that do extreme content seem to already have static groups for it and/or expect perfection right from the get-go. A lot of fcs I've seen or talked to also don't do any sort of extreme content, or they say they might do it, but focus mostly on just running Raba or HW raids.
Other than that though, Coeurl is a super friendly and busy(!!!) server. Limsa is almost always packed to the gills with people.
