So I ended up going with the strawberry blonde look, freckles included, and it's kind of amazing, because...
http://i.imgur.com/PgWZHO3.jpg
...as a DoW, I look all awesome and heroic, yet...
http://i.imgur.com/PgbZ004.jpg
...as a DoM I become a total nerd.
(it's probably the glasses)
