Originally Posted by
Valence
In my experience it's a very mixed bag, especially the higher you get on the scale of "hardcoreness". Not to say that every very hardcore player is toxic, but saying they're here to help others feels a little like a bad joke to me (is this really how high end raiders see themselves?). The higher in skill and expectations I've gone when raiding (aka, HC groups), it's always been like competing for jobs and having people judge everybody else constantly watching for the smallest mistake, get frustrated, and start drama to find the next player to dismiss from the group (for good or bad reasons). I've rarely seen help being offered before it was too late. If anything, people won't help because they want to get rid of the player they deem unfit or problematic, whether said player is indeed dragging the group down, or just dragging the group down in their imagination.
Ultimate groups especially, where really something with this, perhaps because of how the content tends to put players over the stove enough for cracks to start showing.