If you need help with Ifrit Hm perhaps you may join our LS. we have lots of members on Leviathan. Myself i am on my 2nd Relic (blm) so should be doing Ifrit soon if you wanted to join up.
It is true as well about stunning
PS i have done 70+ runs @ Ifrit HM as Bard and never seen the bow drop once. So hopefully not the case for you