Originally Posted by
Lurina
Hermes is one of the better written characters in Endwalker, but I think it's interesting how completely polarized a lot of the reactions to his character are - either his experiences are a damning indictment of Amaurotine society's lack of empathy and demand for total conformity, or he's just a self-obsessed jerk.
I think what's going on with him is pretty complicated, because he both has a point and doesn't. Despite what he assumes, I don't think there's any basis to think that the other Ancients genuinely don't care about him and are just looking for a basis to dismiss his feelings - Hermes seems blind to his own success and privilege in a sense, having risen to a very high station in society with lots of people around him genuinely happy to be working with him and helping him with his projects. Euauthe, who comes up in this story, expresses concern when you poke her in the game even when he's not around. But I do think it's fair to say that Amaurot lacks intuitive empathy when it comes to suffering, both of other people and of wild creatures. A lot of the flippancy with which they treat creations in Elpis, though not particularly remarkable when contrasted with our own treatment of animals in the real world, comes from being unable to really conceptualize fear and anguish because they've developed a culture that avoids causing those responses in people so effectively.
If you do the quests in Elpis, you discover that none of the problems with Ancient society that Hermes describes himself having are unique. You find Ancients both struggling to cope with the death of their peers, and having issues with the treatment of creations, as well as just some other non-conformist weirdos in general. However, what might set Hermes apart is that he's clearly severely clinically depressed; he's not sad for any reason wholly rooted in reality, his brain is just like that. He is and will probably always be melancholic by nature. In the real world, sorrow and loss are so common that most everyone can relate to them regardless of whether or not it's inherent, and this way even people who never really be fully content can find catharsis and self-acceptance through their communities. But the Ancient world, lacking this critical mass, leaves the small minority of people in that state where the only way they'll really find relief is to go out of their way to seek very specific connections with individuals... Which, of course, is one of the hardest things for a person who is already mentally fragile to do.
Feelings that cannot be released wholesomely turn poisonous. Hermes has obviously developed a complex where he sees himself as utterly alone, and that has become self-reinforcing. People not only don't get him, they don't care and want him to shut up. People are cruel and worthless, the world is cruel and worthless, he is cruel and worthless. It reaches the point where he can't even see beyond his own feelings to those others. When one of the Meteia dies, he can only conceptualize it in terms of how it's making him suffer. His once justified anger and empathy for the discarded creations of Elpis has now become putrid and sophistic; his thoughts are not of their pain, but of his second-hand pain.
I think how people respond to him will largely depend on how they conceptualize mental illness generally. Is a society that cannot account for every type of mind flawed, or is it just those people who are flawed? We all draw lines regarding which types of dysfunction are deserving of sympathy and which are deserving of contempt. In our society, chronic depression is usually met with sympathy, but other issues like narcissism and sociopathy are considered flaws in an individual that they have the responsibility of managing, or else face punishment. And some, like bipolar disorder, are on the periphery in terms of social conception; some people are very sympathetic, while others will treat you like you're toxic waste.
If we eliminated suffering to the point that depression became incredibly uncommon, would it also be seen as a 'selfish illness'? Is the fact that we regard any mental illness that way at all a flaw in society? To what extent should society change to accommodate those on the fringe, and how should it change, when often all that binds a people together is shared experience in the first place?