I'm been trying to figure out why this is tilting you soo much? Just form your own groups or play with friends, don't let people you will never meet live rent free in your head.
Perhaps YOU need to consider your wording. I was going to be understanding, but the moment you start throwing insults and such to people in your OP is when you lose all credibility. Just saying. I have nothing against the word 'simp', but I'm not sure if you understand that that toxicity in the community tends to be a severe minority compared to a majority of the playerbase in XIV. A drop in the sea, so to speak.