Playing with your significant other

From my personal experience getting my spouse to play (who is pretty much new to MMOs)...

She is rather uneasy with playing tanks, due to their being expected to "lead" through a dungeon. Until you've learned dungeon layouts well, this can be intimidating. Just the other day she got extremely flustered trying to get around the big room before the 2nd boss in Wanderer's Palace because she had no idea where to go or that things needed to be clicked + where they were, and the rest of the party just seemed to be following her around.

I'd say any DPS class other than pugilist or thaumaturge. These two eventually get a little bit more finesse involved and when they are played badly, it REALLY shows; all it takes is to see a stationary MNK or an "ice mage" in the DF to remind you of this.

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Any class at all.

This games combat is so laughably easy that it doesn't matter what class you play, as long as you mastered reading, you can do just fine with any class.

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Yeah, no, it isn't that simple, sorry.

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Originally Posted by Brynne

Are you me? My husband also introduced me to FFXI shortly after we started dating. I wasn't a gamer at all, but was enchanted with the idea of making a character and having adventures in a fantasy world. We moved into FFXIV together as well. The only difference is that he still plays regularly and we will be jumping into ShB together on the first day of early access. But I definitely play more than he does.

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I dont know. When I started 11 I was going to main SMN, because Carby was so cute.... but somehow hit 75 on DRG first, then RDM. My SMN might have got to 30.....

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Originally Posted by Aramyn89

Anyone have any luck getting there spouse/partner into this game? I'd like to get my girlfriend to play this with me but it would be her first mmo and she's not much of a gamer either. She says she is willing to try though.

Any tips or suggestions to ease her into it? She would be on ps4.
What do you think is the most starter friendly class?

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Tell her that she could change and customise her character however she wants. :p

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Originally Posted by Kazrah

I'd say do what I did with my late gf: show her the jobs and let her decide for herself, explaining things if necessary. Let her do things herself, but help her when she needs it. Show the way, but don't force her through it.

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I am sorry for your loss.

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Originally Posted by Aramyn89

Anyone have any luck getting there spouse/partner into this game? I'd like to get my girlfriend to play this with me but it would be her first mmo and she's not much of a gamer either. She says she is willing to try though.

Any tips or suggestions to ease her into it? She would be on ps4.
What do you think is the most starter friendly class?

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Invite her to play with you, in a sense you do not hide that emotion of really wanting your partner to do this activity with you and guarantee your support also respect your partner time to adapt to the game interface.
Explain the basic formula of the game previously so your partner can decide, if yes with time do the MSQ with your half (Game Plus option) the important is for you both be together.
Other fun aspects of the game that might be convincing to join you:

△ MSQ;
△ Minions design;
△ Relic weapon;
△ Mounts design;
△ Haircut, fashion and fantasia options;
△ PvP (Rival wings);
△ Housing system (show her a interior decoration in game on youtube you have plenty here is one example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5etT-MUA7Ck).

It worked for me.

Ah offer her a jewel that you can afford (doesn't matter if is valuable or not) remember is an eternal good memory of you both and also a way of you to show how important is to celebrate one activity together for the couple dynamic.

As for the friendly class not sure bard might be the easier dps and later dancer as support, does not get the initial stress of leading (tank) and the stress of being able to keep everyone alive (healer).

https://media3.giphy.com/media/vVYQgCPIsYYJa/giphy.gif

/sorry bad english

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Originally Posted by Aramyn89

What do you think is the most starter friendly class?

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I would say maybe summoner / scholar is a good joice. She gets a cute carby at the beginning and later she can deside if she wants to dps or go heal.

i did once upon a time. but when i lead raids, i do have a "no couples" rule solidly enforced.

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Originally Posted by Baka_Neko1

i did once upon a time. but when i lead raids, i do have a "no couples" rule solidly enforced.

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^if situations like this rise ignore it, once you get your partner to play with you find a free company that welcome irl couples or online couples or even if you find a free company who scratches their jealousy all over your faces just ignore it and have fun both of you together.

I tried to get my GF into it. She began as a Arcanist and leveled until about 17 before she ultimately got bored. She didn't like the fact that there are so many cutscenes at the start of the game and there are a ton of single-player story missions were we can't play together which makes her feel like it defeats the purpose of us playing together.

Even with my promises that we'll eventually move into being able to do dungeons together, she still just gets kind of bored with the ARR story. Which I can totally understand. Buying a jump potion is out of the question because I'd personally like for her to actually learn how to play the game the proper way.

If anything, SE needs to do something about the ARR questline. I feel like it's the most off-putting thing for new players....but that's a topic for another thread.

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Originally Posted by Aramyn89

Anyone have any luck getting there spouse/partner into this game? I'd like to get my girlfriend to play this with me but it would be her first mmo and she's not much of a gamer either. She says she is willing to try though.

Any tips or suggestions to ease her into it? She would be on ps4.
What do you think is the most starter friendly class?

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My husband and I play games together since .. well, before we got married. I guess it helps if they are into games overall.

If not, it's okay. You could have her start as a DPS class, as it seems to be the easiest to do on a PS4 controller. Maybe ... an Archer? (I don't have PS4 controller so can't really say).

If not, maybe she likes something else in games or whatnot?

My husband couldn't make it through the msq lol. He's more of an action, less cutscene kind of guy. I told him he could buy skips but he felt it was just avoiding a bigger problem down the road of having to constantly buy skips. Also, he didn't like the fact he couldn't customize his job, like with a talent tree or anything. I tried ; w ;

All i know is a lot of love birds ive got queued with ruined my gameplay. Wiping cause focusing on their SO instead of the tank for heals,doing emotes and causing wipes etc so reeeee
Another cool one Floor 98 PotD we had low health and the chick went to hug her husband and they triggered a bomb trap and we wiped. :(