I'm feeling really scared to do Extreme content, And i don't know if im ready.

EX fights are easy, my guy. Don't fret too much about it. Look up a guide, learn how to do your rotation (or when to heal), and memorize your role in the dance then you'll be set. As long as you aren't skipping ahead to enrage groups when you've just seen p2, nobody's gonna mind that much about your performance.

You can beat this fight in about 8-9 minutes if your group is good. The fight is 11 minutes. Treat EX like a practice mode for higher end content and it won't seem as bad. That and you're hyping it up too much. Stop it and just jump into a fresh group without worry or make your own and kick naysayers.

As an extra tip, if you choose to look up a guide then focus only on what you gotta do. Make sure you get your stuff right before paying attention to others.

Hm - I get anxiety playing Normal. Forget anything more difficult than that!

Join a blind/fresh prog first. 9/10 the group will be super chill about deaths and everyone is on the same level of inexperience with the fight.

You could also try getting a static together to do old trials from all the expansions, I'm actually a part of one right now and it's been just a fun time even when we die.

You're only going to experience people who are more strict if you go outside of casual static groups/PFs so if you want to avoid it, just don't touch any parse runs or join a hardcore static. You can also usually tell the vibe of the party by how they advertise it.

People will obviously randomly dip from the party and just kinda gotta not take it personally because for all you could know they just burnt their pizza and ran to deal with that. You'll have someone fill the empty spot(s) and go back in or just have to find another party if it disbands.

The party finder is far from Harcore. Once you're there, you'll find that many don't even know what the class does. With that in mind, you can now join a group without fear.

I was also afraid of making a mistake, but after some friends take me, it's clear that it's not at all what I was imagining. They make mistakes, and they make a lot of it, just like you will make mistakes too.

Watch the fight videos, look for a group that is TAG fresh prog. This tag means that everyone is starting the fight progress.

I highly recommend, if you have the requirements, start with the last EX that came out. Although it looks complicated, it's an easy fight. The former aren't really worth trying. In addition to the gear being so high that people ignore mechanics (so you wouldn't learn much), the reward is no longer worth ILVL

Those fights, even future ones, also just become a lot easier with experience. A lot of mechanics are just the same mechanic but with a slight spin to it.

Take the current EX for example, you have untelegraphed party spreads (just spread around the boss according to your assigned position), you have protean waves (basically just a line/cone aoe aimed at you), a cleave that hits 80% of the arena, a donut aoe, a big line aoe through the middle, a knockback into a stack marker and 2 proximity aoes.

All these mechanics have existed in one form or another since Heavensward and the more experience you gain from doing extremes the more quickly you will recognize those same mechanics in future extremes and know how to deal with them a lot faster.

You can basically faceroll your keyboard for your skills/spells as long as you do the machanics. Rarely, very rarely are there tight dps checks or engages in Extremes, but they do make for decent intros into the more difficult mechanics...

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Originally Posted by monochrom

I may be exaggerating but people put a lot of time and practice into perfecting the proper rotations. I feel like i'm up for the challenge, but fear of failure is slowing me down from putting the step forward to try an extreme trial.

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This is a big reason why I was afraid to do Savage the entire time I played. Until recently. I let a friend who liked Savage content talk me into giving a try. I ended up clearing P1S and getting a good first experience with Savage out of it.

Especially as a Healer main, I tend to put a lot of pressure on myself to pull my weight and keep the party going during any given pull, so I was always afraid that if I took too long to learn mechanics or didn't utilize my kit absolutely perfectly, the more experienced raiders would get angry about it because I was holding them back. Here's the secret though, especially if you're attempting Extremes and Savage through party finder, there is a WIDE spectrum in the quality of players. I've been in groups for EW Ex4 where melee were so obsessed with uptime that they weren't doing mechanics, killing other people in the party. I've been in parties where we discussed strats before the pull that people then did the exact opposite of "because that's just what I'm used to", killing other people in the party. I guarantee you won't be the only person potentially making mistakes, and if they're out there giving it a go, why shouldn't you be?

All of this is to say, you won't know how harder content feels to you until you jump in and do it. You might find the challenge is just what you're looking for! And most definitely you'll get better as you go. My friend had to drag me into Savage way after 6.1 dropped. Come 6.2, I was like "WEEK 1, LET'S DO THIS". I was terrified to mess up even a single mechanic when I started, and now I'm just like "alright so that clearly didn't work, let's try this instead". Potential failure gets less daunting the more you try. Like everything else in FFXIV, a lot of it just comes down to learning the visual language and practicing. The more you see the harder content, the more comfortable you'll get with it, and the less intimidating it will seem.

And if all else fails, you can always decide it's not for you and stop doing it further down the line. There's genuinely no harm in trying. :)

Start from the first 2 Endwalker extremes and make a practice party in PF. It helps to watch a guide in advance so you know what to look for and whether you need to assign positions. Dps doesn't matter until you're trying to clear the fight.

Most importantly, keep trying. You will probably not kill it with your first group. Maybe not even the 5th. The point is to get further into the fight each time.

The hard part is honestly finding a patient group to learn with. Not hopping on it right when the content tier drops really bites you in the behind in this regard, at least if you're going the PF route. Statics are a better choice overall.

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Originally Posted by Syln

That's quite the opposite, people are far more patient and less demanding week 1.

If the OP have anxiety i recommend him to try and do ex day 1 since it's easier to find blind party (nothing worse than doing your first EX with a party that fully know the fight and overwhelm you with one of those awfull macro)

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I mean that might be true but if it's week 1 for that content at the same time as new crafted gear coming out then it's not accessible due to costs. Overmelding newly bought crafted gear on release is expensive, especially if you're going to do it multiple times an expansion.

Someone told me that it's better to wait to grab limited tomestone gear even if it takes a few weeks and then at the least you won't have to overmeld.