Blacklisting Should Be Updated

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Originally Posted by Theodric

I think in many cases it's best to just be upfront with people in such situations. If I were to block someone I knew out of the blue, if they cared about me to any extent then I'd expect them to be curious and maybe reach out to me. They might not even be aware that they had done anything to annoy or upset me, after all. Or it could be some manner of miscommunication. Maybe they just assume it was a mistake and pursue on that basis. If they insist on poking someone after being told, politely, to give that person some space...then I'd definitely consider it to be harassment and worthy of a report. Yet I'm a firm advocate of taking context into consideration.

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OP feels moved to blist someone, which suggests they don't want to talk to them. Rather than second guess OP, or telling OP to second guess themselves, take what they're saying at face value. If someone is in their blacklist it is because there is no value in speaking to them or seeing what they have to say.

Have you considered asking a friend or family member to communicate your discomfort to the offending party on your behalf?

I get that having anxiety is rough, but you really can't function in a world if you have no back-up plan. I have a friend with anxiety, and I'm conned into ordering food or being the middle-man all the time. Again, I get that some people have anxiety or other handicaps, but you really shouldn't throw your hands in the air, and give up looking for solutions. Humans are social creatures, you need to rely more on your friends and family to compensate for shortcomings. Or else one day you're going to find yourself in a real bind and have never developed the proper tools to solve the problem. You never have to master everything on your own, but you should build a network of people to cover ya.

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And while others have said oh just report them. Or if you do get your wish of a better blacklist. That's just a bandaid fix to a greater problem that you really don't know how to solve these issues. It's a core problem you should honestly be working on a solution for. I believe in you my friend. Best of luck!

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Originally Posted by Raltar

Be an adult and tell them why. If they continue to push the issue and won't leave you alone, you report them.

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Nobody owes you an explanation if they don't want to talk to you or hear from you. Be an adult and stop harassing them.

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Originally Posted by Floortank

OP feels moved to blist someone, which suggests they don't want to talk to them. Rather than second guess OP, or telling OP to second guess themselves, take what they're saying at face value. If someone is in their blacklist it is because there is no value in speaking to them or seeing what they have to say.

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I'm more inclined to err on the side of caution, personally. I don't know the full story and there's two sides to every tale. Then again, I believe in the whole 'innocent until proven guilty' thing which used to be pretty fashionable.

I'm not saying the OP cannot and should not put people on a blacklist. Anybody can do it for whatever reason they so please. I'm just pointing out that if somebody is a friend and they're blacklisted out of the blue and for no apparent reason...then it's pretty normal for that person to reach out for a variety of reasons. Not in the least because they might feel as if it were an accident.

I've blocked people and had them contact me afterwards which is why I brought it up.