Look having a reason being "but i just wanna play with my friends" is not a good enough reasons to warrant any kind of change to the system. Your friends should have coordinated with you if you all really wanted to play together.
And just because comments aren't pointing you to a solution that will benefit you (spoiler alert: there isn't going to be one like EVER for your situation) you need to learn to accept what is and move on. railing against the rules isn't going to magically make someone take pity on you.
