...and this is why you won't see the au'ra changed. They've been in the game as-is for a couple years now. And while there are people that don't like the current design it would be completely unfair to take that away from the people that currently do. They were presented the au'ra as they are now as a new playable race and in good faith chose them.
So, while I think SE really should have gone with the original design and consider the genders horribly mismatched, it's far too late to change their design now. About the only way I could see them doing it would be to add a third au'ra clan to character creation, containing more the original design and smaller height difference, in a way similar to how highlander hyurs differ from midlanders. But the moment you do that, people are going to start yelling for the others races to get a third clan, too.
