The best solution I can think of is have 2 looks to each piece of gear, 1 that was designed for females, and the other for males. No gender restrictions. You would be able to select which version displayed on your character, so you could have the male version on female character or female version on male character.
Personally, I like making my guy look as slutty as possible, but it's easy to get tired of Taffeta Shawl + Couerl Beach Maro after a while. Moar options please.
