Something I will never understand about FFXIV

The last time I joined a brayflox hard party as a tank I had a really bad experience with the healer chastising me for not playing the way they like, even though we were surviving perfectly fine, this person had a problem with everything I did, they were so particular about the exact positions I should stand even though it makes no difference, and when I told them they were being pushy and making it unfun, they stopped healing me and allowed me to die. I left and blocked that person, it's the only time I've walked out on a run like that, and it left a bad taste in my mouth. When playing with people you've never met, you have to be open-minded and adjust to their play style. That person was treating me like their slave, barking orders at me even though I have my own way to successfully complete the duty that differs slightly from theirs.

As a healer I tend to offer most blame on myself for wipes,(even though I keep getting told I'm an awesome healer) as I just feel like there had to be something I could have done better. Better timing on lustrates, better timing in eos cooldowns, something. Which usually gets shot down by tanks or Dps who jump out and say "Na it was our fault for this reason" but never had anyone snap at other people for things yet really. So maybe I'm just lucky

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Originally Posted by NinjaTaru72

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Wow you have been pretty lucky :) I don't usually let tanks die and try everything I can as a healer to keep everyone alive but I was just having an off day and I knew it, it just really ticked me off that because of my very obvious mistake that the tank gets shouted at (I didn't even have Selene out -_-;) and I have seen this happen in other situations when I'm not just the healer and have myself received this abuse as a tank, the strangest thing about that situation and despite calling out the DPS in question I still received two commendations for this (I was pre-made with the tank further showing it was my fuck up and not his)

Well I just hope that people can relax a little on tanks and try to put themselves in their positions because if it keeps going like this we will just get less and less tanks in queues.

when the healer isn't on the ball, the tank dies and everyone sees it.

when the tank isn't on the ball, hate goes crazy and kills people and everyone sees it

when the dps isn't on the ball, killing things takes too long which can cause the tank or healer to mess up and it can look like someone else's fault.

the tanks get the most blame because their screw ups are the most visible, may also be why there are so few of em, from a gameplay perspective it isn't that hard but social pressure to preform or be bullied and shunned by everyone is pretty intense

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Originally Posted by NinjaTaru72

As a healer I tend to offer most blame on myself for wipes,(even though I keep getting told I'm an awesome healer) as I just feel like there had to be something I could have done better.

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