Being Gendered Correctly

Generally speaking gender neutrality can be difficult for some people to think in. It's largely a cultural thing where language supports, or doesn't, neutral verbage. English has alot of gender specific words but only a few gender neutral identifiers (specifically it, them, their, they), one is generally used in identifying a thing instead of a person and the rest are generally used to reference many people instead of just one person. As such, it's difficult for those taught first in English to think outside the binds of gender identification. The Japanese, though, have alot of words for 'they' and use them alot in their writing. But I digress. I generally just ignore it unless it becomes an issue, I'm too old and set in my ways to let how I'm identified in absent speech bother me. Not saying you have to roll over and accept it, just that there's more pressing things to get bent out of shape about.

I honestly play both male and female characters because i like having the option to play both but the hassle is that i have to level both up. Plus im doing a little experiment right now with my female black mage(not giving the name) to see what people would say when i start tanking on my MRD to see if people would treat me differently.

Last person I figured was a girl because of the PC ended up being a guy, I'm just going to consider everyone guys until further notice. I myself if I was playing on a Female PC would say it in my Search Info, "I'm a guy who's playing as a Girl PC, don't pester me about it." You're free to play as what you want, if people can't respect or acknowledge it appropriately than ignore them.

As a female gorilla who identifies as a male gorilla I, too, find it very offensive to be referred to as a carp. I just want to kill dwarves all day, and I keep getting my privilege checked by these gosh darned atom smashing drawbridges.

Why be offended? You can't fault people for taking the safe bet. I assume everyone's a guy until notified otherwise. If they want me to know they're not a male, they'll speak up.

It doesn't have to be personal for it to be painful at worst, tiresome at best.

And honestly the "English isn't very gender neutral as a language" doesn't really address that people are assuming one gender over the other pretty consistently regardless of all other available evidence.

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Originally Posted by Kimmy_Dee

It doesn't have to be personal for it to be painful at worst, tiresome at best.

And honestly the "English isn't very gender neutral as a language" doesn't really address that people are assuming one gender over the other pretty consistently regardless of all other available evidence.

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then just tell them youre a girl then lol. be prepared 2 have
"pics pls?" and morons flirting with you all day. i personally just keep quiet because who really needs to know what gender i am.
im sorry i cant really feel for you since i never once felt offended.

on the plus side, sometimes you can get gil and goodies for being a girl character.
yay girls! http://media.tumblr.com/92cf17a0e43d...sJ31qz4rgp.gif

Yep, been called a "he" lots of times. It's becoming very annoying because it feels like they had already assumed I was a guy no matter what, even though my female character is right in front of them. I call people "he/she" based on the gender of their character. If it's incorrect they will correct me.

People who call you a "he" are either being very funny or are just plain idiots. Your lala is just to adorable and with the name Kimmy! I want to squeeze you! x3

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Originally Posted by Purrfectstorm

Sorry, Kimmy, this happens to me all the time. Sometimes it annoys me to the point of correcting the person but most of the time I just grit my teeth and ignore it. Even if you say you're a woman, there's a good chance some won't believe you. It is extremely sexist to assume that "everyone online is a man until proven otherwise." I recently did a research paper on game addiction and read a report that 31% of adult gamers are female. This may be a far cry from equal representation in the game world but it's still a lot more than no percent. Not everyone has to know that I'm a woman, most of the time it's not important, but I always shake my head whenever someone calls me "bro" because that assumption is always there.

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31%? ORLY?

I get called a "he" all the time and it doesn't bother me. Just get over it.