It is your Fault!

I have never been the blame of healing "directly". I have pointed out my own flaws (maybe that has detracted the others from saying something) but, generally I am not to blame. I have Purposely not healed before though.. where I sleep adds (yes, On whm I do USE my ability to use water > Sleep on adds if applicable) and they keep waking them up. well, have fun buddy because I won't be curing you anymore till you die or kill it.

As to what Crystalfire808 said, Healing is tough. Then again so is Tanking. You got to look at it from everyone's PoV as no one really has it "easy". Just do the best you can with what you got and I am sure that you will get better, as I told someone else who was asking about coil : "turn 1 - 3 is basically AK / DL gear + mechanics checks. If you think you are don't need to improve, you are wrong. Always think see that there is a way to improve something in your rotation, whether it is healing or DPS or Tanking.

If you think you've maximized it, almost 98% of the time you haven't. Go all out and don't hold back, if the PT wipes, just learn from your mistakes and get back in there and win it the next time. EVERYONE can improve in some areas, never be afraid to ask how you are doing and where you might be able to add more Dmg or something into a fight."

I main heal as White Mage. some stuff is DL, some is Relic. I consider myself one of the better healers. I make sure that everyone is topped off but I do NOT make sure that everyone has stoneskin or repeat stoneskin on a tank as I see it as a waste of MP. MP in longer fights is too precious to just waste on a 1-shot stoneskin that blows up faster then a virgin. (bad analogy, I know :| )

I have seen many healers do this and it baffles me. I have also seen Many a healer use cure non-stop and ignore the Free cure 2 where it would've benefited them more. I have also seen off-healers SPAM the shit out of cure 2 and cure 3 and then beg for a ballad from the Bard. If you can't conserve your MP better imo, You don't deserve ballad at all. I play with a hardcore Bard who feels the same way, so maybe he has rubbed off on me a bit, but I generally don't have MP issues, even in turn 4 of the coil unless I have to spam heal the Tank *which is understandable*.

Generally speaking, you will get better and if they said you suck well, just take it for what it is and say "I can do better, I will do better" and get better. You can do it, because you know you can. Don't worry about the little morons that blame everything on everyone else. Just do your job and handle it well. :)

Lol only one time stands out. I had joined a group that was already in progress. Bard was standing in a melee position of mobs that aoe. He dies. I remind him that he is a bard and should move back.

Of course he goes I should shut up and learn how to heal. He goes on and and says I should leave or I can leave if I want too. Calling me a fail healer like the other one that left.

I stayed to prove him wrong. The tank and blm were quiet but I had a feeling they were all together because they were both doing really stupid stuff. No one died.
After we finished the bard was like, not one hit. Basically I didn't dps while they were doing stupid stunts. I got a few hits in when it seemed like everything calmed down but whatever. I just laughed and went on my merry way. Run was fast and I got the myth I needed to +1 my weapon.

One other time, I was completely new to prae and it was a speed run. I don't really care about that one as noobs need to learn and I did. XD

Have you ever tanked?

I've been told I'm a horrible tank 10x more than a healer...and then one run later have a whole team asking if I'd like to set up a static with them. As a healer you're either the first- or second- most visible link in the chain and if the chain breaks sometimes you're going to get blamed. Shrug it off or roll a red class...

I've been accused of being bad by people who don't avoid AoE or know where to position for which bosses.... I don't bat an eyelash at those people.... if they aren't' standing where they should be standing, and refuse to take advice on where they should be, It's out of my hands... I can't cure stupid.

Ofc I have been blamed of screwing it up. But that was not even 10% of the times I actually screwed it. Most of the times it was a wrong decision whom to save and who not to. And it´s ok if the one who died and was more important is annoyed.

But I guess ist about those cases ppl just flame first to not get target of flames. Just answer them "Contributers first." They´ll ragequit and you are better off.

My favorite is when Tanks SR WP undergeared and pull large groups, then blames the healer when they can't keep up with their heals (Swiftcast Holy at the start included)

My solution: Press "O" => Hit "Leave" :]

The iron rule of MMO's. If the Tank dies it's the Healers fault. If the Healer dies it's the Tank's fault, If the DPS dies it's Tank,Healer or Lag if they can't possibly place the blame on the other two XD.

But in seriousness i don't really pay attention to whiners if something wasn't actually my fault. On occasion it is i have nobody else to blame if i have a noob moment and get knocked off by the Demon Wall or something (Happened like two days ago and i think i will never live that down XD) but at times you will get yelled at but you just shrug it off. If you have to choose between saving yourself and somebody else you always pick you since you can't heal if you're dead.

More than the blame game lately the thing that bugs me most is people telling me what to do and when. Like if like 4 people die from being morons then i'm trying to get things under control since we lost the second healer too and while i am doing this my chat box is spammed with "Res me" "Rez" "Rez" "Healer Rez" "Do you even have swiftcast?" "Rez healer" "Healer use LB" "Rez" "Rez" "Healer do you have swiftcast or not?" "Rez" That is VERY irritating when i'm trying to concentrate and avoid a wipe. If you got yourself killed you should eat floor and shut up. You will be rezzed when there is a window for it and it's safe. A lot of people don't know when it's safe to raise and will do it right away so if i do it at the wrong time they will just die again straight away. And before all that i have a duty to make sure the people who stayed alive will be able to carry on.