How to stop a stalker?

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Originally Posted by HeroSamson

Not getting the full story.

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It's true, we're not. But following someone around being a pest is never really justified.

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Originally Posted by HeroSamson

In FFXI ive seen dudes fork over loads of gil to chicks then chicks dump them when they run dry and claim they are being stalked.
Even getting help through game and getting promises to them and then disappear and guys go looking for them because of those promises.

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While this probably happens sometimes, it's an anecdotal example and is symptomatic of a different problem which can be verified through chat logs by a GM.

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Originally Posted by HeroSamson

Someone don't stalk for no reason unless something happened, like I said you just don't join shell and guy goes banana's over a girl character that looks like all the rest.

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Many stalkers suffer from profound mental illness that can give root to obsession with little or no catalyst or basis.

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Originally Posted by HeroSamson

if they are telling the truth, then the guy is crazy but that's hard to believe when every model in game is the same or they let them know they were a girl in real life or gave some reason.

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The focus of obsession can be many different things not just the physical beauty of one's character model. You're really pigeonholing the situation.

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Originally Posted by HeroSamson

I have seen people jump servers, quit and even make post about how they were used and followed the person telling them sorry and they GM them.

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Anecdotal again, this is not necessarily what happens in every scenario.

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Originally Posted by HeroSamson

Don't wanna give name because why? so someone dont get the other side of the story.

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As someone pointed out to you they don't want to name and shame on the forums as they can get in trouble for that. If you do just a little bit of research you can figure out who is being talked about.

And the long and the short of it is yes, we dont have the full story so you should keep the victim shaming and generalizations of the situation to yourself.

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Originally Posted by Nephera

we dont have the full story so you should keep the victim shaming and generalizations of the situation to yourself.

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If this is how you feel, then this topic should of never been created.

lol i know who the OP is talking about xD

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Originally Posted by HeroSamson

Someone don't stalk for no reason unless something happened, like I said you just don't join shell and guy goes banana's over a girl character that looks like all the rest.

if they are telling the truth, then the guy is crazy but that's hard to believe when every model in game is the same or they let them know they were a girl in real life or gave some reason.

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Such astounding ignorance.

Quite literally, people don't stalk other people for absolutely "no reason" but that does not necessarily mean that the reason is a mutual circumstance ("something happened") between the victim and the stalker.

Perhaps the stalker favored a particular name, maybe they saw the victim talking in public and established some kind of attachment towards the victim, maybe they were in the same party.............. infinite possibilities.

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Originally Posted by HeroSamson

Doesn't matter, it's hard to believe.

I ain't doing something you guys are all doing, jumping the gun on someone who you guys already branded a stalker without knowing who the person is or getting the other half of the story.

Unless you know this is true, which you do not. don't brand someone if you don't know the whole story.

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If you go read some of the links that were provided by the OP you can see that this person has some issues and that the OP's claims hold some weight.

Based on the lodestone blog and other posts I personally think the stalker in question does indeed have some screws loose; even if you don't consider the stalking claims.

You guys are talking about a "GAME" a false world where people control characters.

1. he has no clue where she lives and probably does not even know what she looks like in real life or know her name.
2. I am ignorant coming from a person who believes a person behind a character is some how going to get you is super ignorant.
3. You start mixing reality with fantasy you have problems.

Remember its just a video game, nobody is holding anyone down and telling them to pay attention to the person.

black list options, GM options and even moving to other servers to get away its not like he has a pair of virtual handcuffs and some rope.

Call me what you want but this could be handled in a better way instead of coming here for answers.

I mean don't want my opinion don't post a topic.

I hope this topic is removed, because this guy could live miles away and just a kid and has zero clue on where they live so yeah.

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Originally Posted by HeroSamson

You guys are talking about a "GAME" a false world where people control characters.

1. he has no clue where she lives and probably does not even know what she looks like in real life or know her name.
2. I am ignorant coming from a person who believes a person behind a character is some how going to get you is super ignorant.
3. You start mixing reality with fantasy you have problems.

Remember its just a video game, nobody is holding anyone down and telling them to pay attention to the person.

black list options, GM options and even moving to other servers to get away its not like he has a pair of virtual handcuffs and some rope.

Call me what you want but this could be handled in a better way instead of coming here for answers.

I mean don't want my opinion don't post a topic.

I hope this topic is removed, because this guy could live miles away and just a kid and has zero clue on where they live so yeah.

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...What? Where are you getting most of this from?

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Originally Posted by Virgil

...What? Where are you getting most of this from?

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That is what I am wondering. That guy's replies do not pertain to any established statements.

The blog entries are unsettling to say the least.. The OP is justified in being freaked out, and there is no reason why *she* should move out and leave her FC and friends behind. She did all she could do (blacklisting, contacting GMs etc...), she has done nothing wrong. If that person keeps on harrassing her its on SE to do something about it, not her.

No, You are ignorant.

1. If I were "CyberStalked" not stalked as the real life term is, I would of blisted and moved on just like every RMT spams me everyday.
2. You guys make such a huge deal about it, when its a really easy thing to deal with.

Now if I was stalked and guy was going through my damn trash can and had my number and emailed me and texted me and chased me around in real life, I would consider this a problem.

but you guys have a twisted image in your heads, You all are jumping this "random person" guess what I am defending this random person so for that im ignorant haha get of of my face.