Go read up on it on wiki forums.
http://forums.ffxiclopedia.org/viewt...p?f=17&t=25873
There were:
1) Magian staff. As far as I know, I'm the only one who finished -pdt.
2) Augmented hat, which I had to toss/rebuild.
3) -mdt belt, I camped it for weeks based on bad information. My bad.
4) Several Avatar: Defense Bonus or Enhances avatar defense items. They help, and only I care.
5) 2 -10% pdt Atma, pre-Heroes.
Oh, and this:
6) 3 regen Atma: 15, 15, and 20.
#6 is very important, since the combination of regen and -pdt is why avatar tanking works on some of the toughest NMs. I discovered that even without the existance of DG, pet tanking/kiting capacity would improve an additional 460% in Abyssea. That means I would have to summon my pets once for every five times the average SMN would, IF the mob was strong enough to break through the regen/cures. Yes, melee is VERY possible where your pet can tank it. Talk to any BST.
As for my melee gear surpassing that of my avatar? The solution is -enmity, or a real tank. I can deal 60% more damage than my pet and stay out of harm's way.