Your post sounds very whinny OP. You really shouldn't be so concerned with what other people think, you will feal much better when you stop caring about what other people think or do in a MMO.

Does this sound familiar to you? You are in a Linkshell they do nothing but comment on how bad everyone else is and how they are such a noob and our linkshell is so much better, *instert rival Linkshlll here* members might have X gear but they are bad since they got no skill ect.

From what I seen a majority of FFXI linkshells love to bad mouth other players who aren't in their own linkshell, infact I seen it in almost every MMO. People are automatically bad unless they are in your linkshell or guild.