BLU Balance

[Diavolo]

It's difficult to have a civil discussion with someone that takes offense to "Do you play BLU?" and then claims the only reason you asked it was to discredit everything they said, painting you in a negative light in the process. I was genuinely curious about your experience with the job.

I swear, everyone is so damned sensitive these days.

[Afania]

It's difficult to have a civil discussion with someone that takes offense to "Do you play BLU?" and then claims the only reason you asked it was to discredit everything they said, painting you in a negative light in the process. I was genuinely curious about your experience with the job.

I swear, everyone is so damned sensitive these days.

It depend on the situation, and how you ask.

In normal circumstances, if I pt with someone, and he asked "do you play BLU?", I wouldn't take offense. I would just view it as a conversation starter.

If someone's organizing pt and he asked "Do you play BLU", I also wouldn't take offense. Because I know pt lead just wanted to gather info on team member's job, to do his job.

In your case, you asked the question "Do you play BLU" basically right after I posted my proposal to the adjustment, in the middle of a heated debate. Followed with "I asked the question to the OP and they sidestepped it."

I'd bet 90% of time people will find it somewhat uncomfortable with a question like this, that's just how human react. People tend to be more defensive in a debate or heated discussion, therefore people tend to react differently compare with "normal" conversation. A "Do you play BLU" question could send out entirely different msg depending on the situation. Try to observe it irl, ask questions like "Do you have Masters in Finance" when 2 people are having a debate about economy, I can promise 90% of people will take offense, or feel uncomfortable about it, especially if you follow with the following sentence: "Last time I asked someone with the same opinion they sidestepped it"

If you really want to ask "do you play BLU" in a heated debate, I'd suggest the more tactful way is to start the conversation with different approach, such as "As someone who also plays BLU, I can understand where you are coming from, BUT [insert your opinions here]" or at least explain your reasoning behind wanting to know, such as "As someone who plays BLU, I find a lot of opinions about BLU is being exaggerated, such as VD solos. Could you tell me a little bit more about your VD solo experiences on BLU?"

There are probably a tactful way to approach the "do you play BLU" question, but definitely not "Do you play BLU? Last time when I asked OP they sidestepped it"

If you choose a less tactful way to engage the conversation, then you can't really blame people for being "too sensitive", most people will have the same reaction.