I'm not having trouble with hate. Since melee are never present at endgame, practically, I never really test myself on a single-target hate reset vs melee/rangers, but I have against mages. It's no problem at all to get things back from mages after a hate-reset.

The only hate reset I've experienced lately with a physical damage person was Ultima/Omega HTBF's Pile Pitch (throat stab), and yeah, it can take a minute to get it back on me but that's the purpose of single-target hate resets, it's supposed to take effort to recover.