And this is so very well said. I agree with it very much. There are improvements that could be made to better "balance" jobs with their respective base function, but there is definitely a player mentality barrier involved as well. Unfortunately it is much easier for people to see number totals than the other benefits a DPS job could bring to the table alongside their lower damage output.
Also Seillan, I wish you the best of luck in finding a group of people that are laid back and play for the fun of everyone involved instead of just finding ways to "go it alone" so to speak. They're out there!
