Quote Originally Posted by Kincard View Post
If someone is wasting your time by being a bad player, then I don't see why someone wouldn't be annoyed. I don't think I've heard of people being annoyed at bad players they don't play with, they usually just laugh at them.

One of the problems with your exact attitude is that people are often complaining about how they don't get invites in the game, and if anybody tells them its because of their favored job being terrible in the current game or because they gear/play poorly, they're usually the ones that actually get angry and act rude, as opposed to the people who know what they're doing. I've seen this over and over again, apparently giving advice = rude. A large portion of the playerbase has gotten jaded about that and basically nobody helps each other anymore, because people are almost never receptive to anything you have to say. (BTW, my favorite job is NIN, which has consistently been a terrible job except for exp grinding the old fashioned way and the Abyssea era, and some really niche things like Ark Angel EV)

If you've ever heard rumors of Japanese PUGs being more pleasant, I can tell you from first-hand experience that it's partially because Japanese players have a larger portion of people that are receptive to people giving them advice on how to play the game.

This isn't really a problem restricted to this game, this happens in basically every MMO. People that take the time and effort to learn how to play the game are always going to be annoyed at players that not just waste their time by being bad, but are also completely uninterested in improving and get defensive if you try to help them.
I think it depends on what type of "help" you're talking about. Calling someone "bad" and ridiculing them for playing a "useless" class and/or because they aren't using the most optimal gear setups isn't helping them at all; it just causes feelings of resentment. I'm not saying you do this (maybe you genuinely try to help inexperienced players while not being an asshole to them) but unfortunately, I'd say you would be the exception. The Japanese seem like a more polite/less confrontational culture in general, so it's not surprising that they remain diplomatic when giving advice; I'd wager they also don't forcefully interject their opinions as the only viable way to do something either. I've had enough experience in end-game situations in US mmorpgs to know that's typically not the case here -- in fact, it's practically the opposite. If more people actually remained sensible, patient, and polite while offering helpful advice to people that were struggling with their class/job for whatever reason, I doubt most people on the receiving end of said advice would get defensive about it. In other words, the presentation of advice is important. Telling someone to "L2P" is not advice, nor is it helpful in any way whatsoever.